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Old 04-16-2010, 04:56 PM
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You two are awesome What a way to build a foundation...communication, pace, eyes wide open and still seeing the big picture despite how exciting the small one can be. Seriously..you need to write a manual
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Old 04-20-2010, 03:58 PM
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I am calm, peaceful and happy. There's not a lot new and exciting over the past few days but I feel like I might be off that roller coaster that I was on for the past little while. I feel more grounded and less like I don't know what's coming next.

I'm also really excited that I'm going to be playing in the next derby game. Maux Faux is taking to the track! Gotta get my game face on.

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eta: I'm finding that giving more love into the universe is brining more back to me.
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Old 04-27-2010, 08:55 PM
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My husband is home. He just got off the ferry a couple of hours ago and surprised me for lunch . It's so good to see him again. I've missed him. Now to get through the last couple of hours of work until I can go home...

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Old 04-27-2010, 09:09 PM
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My husband is home. He just got off the ferry a couple of hours ago and surprised me for lunch . It's so good to see him again. I've missed him. Now to get through the last couple of hours of work until I can go home...

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This is great news!! Say hi for me
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Old 04-27-2010, 09:25 PM
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Congrats.
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Old 05-05-2010, 05:27 AM
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This evening I thought I'd do the noble thing and tell my ex gf that I'm dating Redpepper. It went pretty much as I expected it would. She got angry at me and now isn't talking to me again. I'm kind of glad I decided to do it over the computer now rather than in person like I had originally planned.

My reasoning in telling her was that it was better that she find out from me rather than through the grapevine. She was still hoping that I'd get back together with her but being that we broke up twice (for the same reason both times and her breaking it off both times) I didn't want to go back there again since nothing has changed. She seems to have a hard time finding the middle ground of friendship. I learnt from that relationship that I need a foundation of frindship first so that I have an idea of how someone works.

I feel bad for hurting her though. I knew it would hurt her because she wants something different from me than I want from her. I would have loved to have stayed friends with her but I'm thinking now that it's really not going to be possible. We have a mutual friend who I've asked to go and talk to her and keep her company. She's not a bad person we were just not the greatest match.

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Old 05-05-2010, 02:54 PM
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This evening I thought I'd do the noble thing and tell my ex gf that I'm dating Redpepper.

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It was a brave thing to do and much better than her hearing it from a friend. Sorry she reacted that way. I find it interesting how "possessive" for lack of a better word some ex's can be towards people.
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Thats tough derby. Maybe someday you can mend those fences...

I know for me being friends with ex's is the hardest thing I have ever tried to do...maybe some serious time apart will help her. Who knows...
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I'm appreciating reading this now that I know a bit more and know who's writing.
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Old 05-05-2010, 10:00 PM
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Thanks for the support guys. I'm feeling better today. It's good to know where I stand. Also it's a relief that it's not something hanging over my head anymore that needs to be done. A weight has been lifted. Although I'm sad that it didn't go better there wasn't really a better time. I'm glad I'm coming home tomorrow.

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