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Old 04-17-2012, 05:29 AM
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You can find the very start of our journey on this forum, as I stumble over this place when I was in need of help and didn't know what to do. The link in my signature will direct you to where I wrote about everything. Things have progressed alot since then, but we managed to pull it off and are happy right now. The perspective is that of a poly involved with monos, but maybe there is something of interest for you as well.
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Old 04-17-2012, 04:27 PM
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Originally Posted by browneyes View Post
Would anyone mind sharing some of their stories with me about the beginning of their relationships with their mono or poly partners? I feel like i have a road map with no path on it.
I felt the same way. Still do. Hence my username. Big blank piece of paper with a red dot on it. :-)

(I'm mono, my partner and his OSO are both poly)

For us, it started off a bit differently - basically, starting a vee all at once and not opening up an existing relationship, although there was a close friendship before he realized he was Poly.

I've been lurking around the boards here for a while, and joined the Yahoo email lists as well, and really do appreciate seeing the different perspectives. I don't have a story to tell yet (or perhaps I do, but it's still in the middle), but my partner has started a blog dedicated to his Poly journey in more of an abstract sense. The relationship itself has its hard spots and its good ones, and one thing I keep reminding myself is to stop looking at it as a poly/mono thing and appreciate what the relationship with my partner itself has to offer... which is an awful lot.

Anyhoo - welcome!
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Old 04-18-2012, 12:14 AM
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Do a search in the tags for "mono/poly," find threads by sage, look at her signature, you'll find a link.
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Old 04-18-2012, 04:28 AM
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Hi. Im the husband in a mono/poly relationship. We are in a V with her as the hinge between her new man and me. I know the emotions you are going through. I am in a bit of a different situation as I am the one who suggested she go poly while assuring her that I would stay mono because of her jealousy issues.

As it was a fantasy of mine for years before we actually took the plunge, I did imagine all th epossibilities before deciding that I was ready. It doent make the emotions any easier. They are meeting tomorrow alone for the first time and I have this emotion fo intense excitement coupled with that nagging fear that she will lose interest in me, leave me, etc...and yet I know that if I give in to the fear then I WILL fulfill my own fear-she wont be interested in me if I am whiny and clingy after suggesting to her to date him.
Your situation sounds a bit different like he wanted to be poly and convinced you to let him. Are you not interested in being poly too? Or is it because he does not want you to be?
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