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Old 04-11-2012, 08:54 PM
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Old 04-15-2012, 04:50 AM
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For now, set appropriate boundaries if your feelings are hurt when your friends act the way they do. Such as agreeing to disagree, and admonishing them that they have made their point and don't need to belabor it anymore. In the meantime, keep reading, researching, and studying up on all the various aspects of polyamory, so that if your friends (hopefully) do come to you with questions at some point, you'll have answers for them. (And at the least, you'll have some more answers for yourself.)

Being an active member on this forum is a great portal for doing all that reading/researching/studying up, by the way. Glad you're here!
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Old 04-15-2012, 07:01 PM
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Originally Posted by DiCandy View Post
My big question is... what do I do to make my friends understand where I am coming from??? or maybe the right question should be, should I allow my friends to get in my personal business the way they do?? I mean until which point is your friend's opinion really important in your lifestyle...

You don't make them do anything. If they are friends and truly respect you, they understand you make your own choices and will provide support even if they would make other choices. If they continue to disrespect you, they're not very good friends and you're better off without them.
When speaking of various forms of non-monogamy...it ain't poly if you're just fucking around.

While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.
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