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Old 06-25-2014, 05:24 AM
musicdude musicdude is offline
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After two marriages lasting a total of 27 years (the last one ending in the death of my wife) I find myself single for, essentially, the first time in my life. That has been the case for close to three years now.

Although my history would indicate that I am a monogamous person, the truth of the matter is that I was not really happy in that relationship style. Secure, but not really happy.

At first I dismissed Polyamory as just a different word for Swinging, but I have looked into it more deeply and have a better understanding of what it really is.

A year ago I met and fell in love with a wonderful, complex woman. Early in our relationship she wanted to know how I felt about the subject of Polyamory. I really believed she was testing the waters to see if I was a "cheater", but eventually came to realize that she was seriously considering this as a relationship style that may work for her. We are both very busy people and neither of us seem cut out for a traditional relationship style. Ours may evolve into a poly relationship at some point. Who knows.

I don't know if my position is unusual, but I am more attracted to the idea of a poly relationship for what it can do for my partner than my need to be with more than one person. I don't really expect one person to fulfill all of my needs, but more than that I don't want my partner to feel they have to leave me in order to connect with someone else. Maybe other members of the group feel the same way.

Looking forward to discussing and learning more.
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Old 06-25-2014, 11:00 PM
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Greetings musicdude,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

"I don't want my partner to feel they have to leave me in order to connect with someone else. Maybe other members of the group feel the same way."
For sure; that's one of the great things about poly. The option to choose "both people," instead of "break up with one to keep the other."

It sounds like you've been doing your homework and intend to do more. I commend you for it. There's a lot of good info on this site so dig right in. Don't hesitate to post any questions or whatnot along the way.

Glad to have you here.
Kevin T., "official greeter"


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