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Old 02-12-2012, 11:29 PM
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Is this woman also your Dom? I only ask because it seems odd that she'd have the right to tell you that you're still lovers, but she's refusing you sex. Who is she making declarations about that you're "unsafe"? If I were you, I'd be out the door and not let her dictate to me how our relationship was going to end.
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Old 02-12-2012, 11:32 PM
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She is not my dom as we do not engage in BDSM whatsoever. She does have tendencies...anyways urgh. I told her I would not accept that and that we were nothing but friends at this point. Thanks for your help.
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Old 02-12-2012, 11:48 PM
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Old 02-13-2012, 05:19 AM
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No kidding about the drama. What the heck? She seems to think she is the boss man around your place and in your relationship.
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Old 02-13-2012, 08:22 AM
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Someone needs to really explain to me, why she`s a villain for not wanting the same things.
He could be seen as much of a douchebag for 'beating around the bush' all the time, and wasting her time waiting for her to 'change'.
I didn't get the impression in anyone's posts that she's being made out as the villain.

He also didn't say that he is waiting for her to change. We don't know exactly what "beating around the bush" was, but telling your partner that you're poly can be really terrifying and it can easily take people a long time to get to the core of it. That doesn't make him a douchebag. Nor is name calling ever helpful.
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Old 02-13-2012, 04:03 PM
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I didn't get the impression in anyone's posts that she's being made out as the villain.

He also didn't say that he is waiting for her to change. We don't know exactly what "beating around the bush" was, but telling your partner that you're poly can be really terrifying and it can easily take people a long time to get to the core of it. That doesn't make him a douchebag. Nor is name calling ever helpful.
SC I usually appreciate your opposite views, but you`re out to lunch on this one. You cannot point out to me that nobody actually called her a villain, and then turn around and say I named called, when I said he could be seen as one. Make up your mind.

Oh, and I guess the point of my post, was more to the effect it takes two to tango. If she can be seen as a bossy, he could be seen as a douchebag. Fault lies in both, it`s never one-sided, no matter how scared a new poly is.

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