our poly life

[sterling119]

For those who have followed our budding relationship in the introductions area this is a continuation as asked for by several here. If you have not followed and care to please feel free to do so and as always any comments and or advice is welcome.

Well another pretty good weekend is coming to a close....so far so good with everything. Wifes "second husband" came back home as planned on friday. I was working overnight that day due to a schedule change so they had the night together alone. Had dinner, cuddled on the couch with some nice flirt/play time and then up to bed where according to wife they had fantastic sex that night and slept together in our bed till morning. I got back mid morning just as he was going to spend time with his family, both had a nice smile and looked satisfied and happy . Wife and I had been invited to a party/ bbq event that afternoon and ended up staying the night there due to our policy of no drinking and driving. We had a nice private room and we truly enjoyed both the party seeing old friends we hadn't seen in a bit and the night together alone. Very good sex and cuddled up for the night after waking still cuddled up in the morning. Got back today and we are currently just chatting, enjoying the evening together with her cuddled up between us and flirting with both. Since he will be leaving for the week late tonight he is going to get a short nap and she will be joining him as it is the last time we will see him till next friday. I am sure she will come cuddle up to me after he leaves for work and we will have our week together again looking forward to next weekend.

[JustUs]

All sounds very good and similar to our situation. My wifes boyfriend visit are usually 2 weeks at a time where they get lots of one on one time together in addition to all of us hanging out and having a good time. He and I get along great as well and comfortable with each other even when my wife is not around. Would love to hear more!

[sterling119]

Well it's friday again, wife's "second husband" should be home at some point this evening for the weekend. We are both excited about him coming home and she says he is as well as they have been texting all week. Last weekend he was only able to spend time with him friday night while I was at work. Saturday we went to a party we had been planning on for a long time and sunday evening they normally spend time together however she was not feeling well and time with him kinda got pushed to the side. This week we decided he should get more time with her so tonight we will all be home but she will be spending the night with him to kinda "make up" what happened last weekend. Not sure what we are doing saturday evening but I am sure the 3 of us will go to dinner out and maybe some shopping or perhaps a stop at a club for some fun time...we will play it by ear and sleeping arrangements by ear as well but we know for sure about tonight. I will let everyone know how the weekend went at some point so stay tuned if your interested. We so far have no issues and both get along well with "our girl".

[sterling119]

been a bit since I have added anything here. Lots has gone on over the last couple of weeks including our first ripple in the v. It has been 2 weeks since D and J have been together sexually for several reasons. D and I were away for 1 overnight out of town trip so that weekend didn't work out for them, the next one was a combo of things, he didn't get in from his job till very late that friday, saturday he had a bout of bad behavior so to speak going to his ex inlaws for a lake party and being to drunk to drive home (although give him and them kudos for not actually driving in that condition). Sunday brought a little rift....little but an evening ruiner that was resolved right away and that makes 2 weeks in a row since he is only home weekends.

This weekend should be a good one with her being in a good mood, forgiving the rift between them and him already being home for the weekend. D and I have talked and I am going to let them have the run of the house tonight for some alone time since I have had her all to myself for the last couple of weeks. She is out at her weekly girls evening then home to him and I will be out for the night so they can enjoy eachothers company. Will post again when I hear how things went and more about our weekend.....that is if there is anyone interested....if not maybe it's time I keep it to myself.....lol.

[JaneQSmythe]

Originally Posted by sterling119

Will post again when I hear how things went and more about our weekend.....that is if there is anyone interested....if not maybe it's time I keep it to myself.....lol.

Please do! The blogs don't generally generate many comments as they are seen as the "poster's home" on the site. But we are reading/learning/sympathizing.

As the "hinge" in a MFM cohabitating Vee (ours is full-time) I love reading about how others manage/arrange things.

JaneQ

[sterling119]

Well, the weekend came and went. Friday while I was out for the night so they could have alone time since they had not been together for almost 2 weeks. I was told j was there when she came home around 10 or a little after. She did some things around the house and they sat down to a nice pot of coffee, talking and enjoying each others company for about an hour. I had not seen him that day and she hadn't either so he did not know the plan for the weekend. She asked him if he would like to spend the night with her in our bed as we had talked and thought they needed some time to relax and enjoy eachother totally with no one around. He was very happy about the plan and they retired to our upstairs bedroom for the night. She said they kissed, had some nice foreplay and went on to make love for quite a while enjoying several positions and both having those good tension releasing orgasms......lol. They cuddled up and slept the night away peacefully with her waking in the morning for work and him giving her a nice kiss and telling her how much he enjoyed the night. I got back to our house mid morning having a bite to eat and some coffee. J came downstairs and could not be more happy. We have now decided all together that split time on the weekends for whole nights might be a better plan although we will see how it goes but it sure worked this last weekend as all were very happy and content. A question for all in a v relationship from us is how do you split time? both home and bedroom time and what works best for you?

[JaneQSmythe]

I'm glad things went well from everyone's perpective - Happy, Happy, Joy!

Originally Posted by sterling119

A question for all in a v relationship from us is how do you split time? both home and bedroom time and what works best for you?

This is going to greatly depend on the individual people involved and the levels of alone/couple/together time that each person wants/needs. I think the "love languages" come into play here as well. We all live together full-time and I am the only one who works outside the hose. They get their "friend" time while I am at work and we spend non-sexy evening times all together - doing things together or separately or with one but not both.

My relationship with MrS is much more built on sharing of values and ideas - we emotionally bond over intellectual conversation (sharing the "love language" of quality time). Dude is much more physical/emotive (love languages - "physical touch" and "words of affirmation") - so he gets most of the bedroom sexy times.

If one of us feels the need for alone time...or couple time...we just do that! There is not a planned schedule. (It probably helps that we are all pretty independent people with plenty of shared, and NOT shared, interests.)

JaneQ