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Old 12-09-2009, 07:26 PM
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Neither one was hot (Madonna guarantees I stay limp); neither one was disgusting.

Were the first to involve other women--women whom I find attractive--that one could be hot.
OK so you think 2 women kissing, if both are hot, is hot.

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The other would still garner a "meh."
Meh, meaning, it's not a turn on? But do you think its so disgusting it should never been seen? 2 gay guys on the street, a little PDA, worse than het or lesbian PSA?
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Old 12-09-2009, 07:36 PM
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Thanks for being honest, Mono! And now you can, if you wish, explore why you think men shouldnt be intimate w each other.
I certainly do not think they should not be intimate with each other. You asked which pictures were hot. I don't think any of them are disgusting at all. I merely admitted that it is easier for me to watch men engage in sexual acts other than kissing.
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Old 12-09-2009, 08:26 PM
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Because I end up watching TV on Fridays sometimes, and at home we have two channels that dedicate themselves to soft core porn on Friday nights (one disguised them as Art, the other as Documentaries) I drop this little tidbit into the mix:

According to one of the shows disguised as a Documentary, they discussed the relationship between imagry of sexual acts, such as the pics kindly provided earlier in the thread, and the differences in physical response (Ie: turned on, or not) between the subjects corrilated by the participant physical Gender and stated Orientation.

(I am not going to speculate about the validity of the study, methodology etc... it was a Doc, not a paper. I am also not going to address definitions of Gender or orientation used...it was a Doc, not a paper)

The results were as follows:

Almost all females were physically turned on by any of the acts...regardless of their own orientation, and regardless of the subjects in the pictures. It didn't matter if the pic was MM, MF, FF, MFM...etc...didn't mattter that the viewer was Hetero, Homo, Bi...they responded to them all.

The greater majority of males...were phyically responsive only when at least one subject in the pic matched with their orientation. Hetero did not respond to MM, Homo did not respond to FF.


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Old 12-09-2009, 10:02 PM
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I think that I've always been bisexual. I didn't know the term as a young child-but was attracted to both boys and girls. As a young woman I recognized that I "got wet" if someone who "really did it for me" walked by of either sex or god forbid actually paid attention to me.

I was raised in a strict religious environment that did not accept such a thing-but it didn't seem to stop my hormones from being conscious and aware of both sexes.

I tend towards believing that everyone is somewhere on a line
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My husband has never felt attraction or gotten his motor running over another man, so maybe he is stuck all the way to the right. I flip flopwith a slight leaning towards the women side in attraction, but have acted more on the side of men.....
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I certainly do not think they should not be intimate with each other. You asked which pictures were hot. I don't think any of them are disgusting at all. I merely admitted that it is easier for me to watch men engage in sexual acts other than kissing.
Oh sorry. I think I should have chosen my words better. I didnt mean which was a turn on. Of course, 2 men kissing wouldnt necc be a turn on to a man who IDs as straight. I meant, which image seems more acceptable, considered arousing in general. Do the male images seem more shocking, or abnormal?

I know some ppl here are quite queer friendly. This is more a question for GroundedSpirits OP.
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Old 12-10-2009, 12:05 AM
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The greater majority of males...were phyically responsive only when at least one subject in the pic matched with their orientation. Hetero did not respond to MM, Homo did not respond to FF.


Enjoy.

But I know Ive seen studies where the most homophobic men (who claimed to be straight) registered most arousal at gay male porn.
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we are all actually bisexual and simply alot of us either never meet the right person to bring out those feelings or we pay too much attention to the mean spirited ways of the world looking down on same sex partners
I honestly don't agree with this (that we're all bisexual). I am not bi. I have no problems with bi in any form - male or female. I have watched and read porn from both perspectives and found it arousing.

But for me - I have no interest in having sex with another woman. It just doesn't float my boat or light my candle or any of those things.

That's not to say that I haven't ever loved another woman or had a crush on another woman, but I've never been sexually attracted to another woman. And I don't think that's because I repress ir or because I haven't met the right person.

If one can be "wired" mono, I suspect one can be "wired" hetero. Of course I guess that's another discussion. And all of that is completely separate from finding bi- "disgusting" - which I don't.
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Old 12-10-2009, 01:31 AM
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Meh, meaning, it's not a turn on? But do you think its so disgusting it should never been seen? 2 gay guys on the street, a little PDA, worse than het or lesbian PSA?
Not a turn on. I don't find anything disgusting about it.

PDA on the street, whether hetero or homo, isn't anything that warrants much attention, unless they're damn near humping in public. Then my reaction is the same: "Get a room." I might want to watch them in that room if it's a hot female pair (or threesome or whatever).

To provide some additional info, the porn I most watch is female masturbation videos. The hottest video I've ever watched involved two hermaphrodites, each of whom identified (or at least presented) as female.
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Old 12-10-2009, 01:38 AM
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Maybe we're not all bisexual. But I often think it's best to think that we're all on a bi-sexual spectrum -- rather than thinking that we're either of three simple kinds: het-, bi-, or gay-as-a-goose.

Sure, some folks are way out on either end, or smack-dab in the middle. But it's a spectrum, after all. More analogue than digital.
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Old 12-10-2009, 01:42 AM
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Kinsey agreed that while everyone may not be bisexual, these different expressions of sexuality exist on the same spectrum.

http://www.kinseyinstitute.org/resea...cale.html#what
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