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Old 12-09-2009, 05:11 AM
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Maybe when society becomes less male homophobic, we will see more bisexual men pubically. I have a gut feeling that basic bisexuality is probably equal in both genders.
Do I really get to be the one to catch "pubically"!!??? HA!
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Old 12-09-2009, 02:33 PM
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I'll second Rarechild here and put in my two cents, that its been my experience and overall thoughts that we are all actually bisexual and simply alot of us either never meet the right person to bring out those feelings or we pay too much attention to the mean spirited ways of the world looking down on same sex partners and either squash the feelings inside or refuse to acknowledge them

growing up in a smaller town, surrounded by not very open minded people or ideas, it was very confusing and upsetting to feel a knowledge within myself that i didn't have words to help me understand or places to seek information about why i was so different. i just knew i had stronger than friendship feelings to several of my girlhood friends and would love to watch them for hours just doing whatever. it wasn't til in my teens that i even really knew and understood one could have sexual feelings towards others of the same sex and that it was not bad or evil to have said feelings

as far as what kids get up to when discovering themselves, well i was late to that party as well, so i can't really help there either

as to whether more gals are bi than the guys? well, i don't personally think so, i bet most of the guys who aren't saying they are is simply due to society making them feel wrong for wanting it and or their own personal reasons/issues for not being up front about it
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Old 12-09-2009, 02:35 PM
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Some interesting thoughts here from everyone. Thanks for taking a moment.
As is usual there's several of these responses that could take off on their own probably. Maybe they will ?
I don't know if it's practical for me to add a personal response to all of them but will try to add to a few.

I think those that alluded to differences in how boys & girls show "affection" was an interesting point. If any supposition was drawn by the friend I mentioned that made the observation, it might be wise to keep that in mind. That fact that they observed more....."touchy/feely" behavior from the girls may be nothing more than the difference in ways that affection is shown with the genders. Good point !

For anyone who took the definition to task I'd ask them to just please go back and re-read. The necessity of that was nothing more than to keep us all focused on the question. The term "bisexuality" can & does go off in MANY directions, especially one dealing with relative "attraction". Some clearly picked up on the need for that - others clearly didn't. It was necessary for this particular discussion to keep it tightly bound all the while acknowledging there were other definitions that could take us in MANY directions.

For those who may be confused be the I/we association by MY writing I'll just clear that up - again - by explaining that "K" (my wife/mate/soulmate/partner etc) has a bit of an aversion to the computer, particularly typing more than a few sentences. I use either "I" or "we" accordingly, depending on whether the subject is one that we've spent significant time discussing in the past, or lived shared experiences. Either one of us would be more than capable of sharing the others perspectives on most basic things and for the most part we're very much in sync (except on food or movie preferences) lol. It's only that "I" end up doing the "typing" so have to take responsibility for words used.

But to echo what someone else posted, from what studies I've seen there seems to be no dramatic difference between the genders regarding bisexuality - depending on how that's defined. Which leads us to point to societal factors as some pointed out. The question I had, and how I framed it (targeted at the ladies) was just drawn from the other thread where it originated. "I", myself, think it could well be made a gender neutral question, but again was restricting it only because that's where it "started".

Good stuff........
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Old 12-09-2009, 05:28 PM
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If there is any doubt about the patriarchy causing men to suppress their bi or homosexuality, one need look no further than the brouhaha around Adam Lambert's recent American Music Awards performance, in which he kissed his male keyboardist. This lost him appearances on a morning talk show and on the upcoming Dick Clark/Ryan Seacrest New Yr's Eve show.



Now, Madonna and Britney can tongue kiss on prime time TV any day of the week and no one minds. But 2 men??? Its porn and will traumatize the children (never mind kids are more and more accepting of gays these days).



Also, from my personal exp, since I am listed at okc as bi, i get hit on by many men who list themselves as straight on their profiles... but admit to being bi privately.
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Old 12-09-2009, 05:32 PM
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Also, from my personal exp, since I am listed at okc as bi, i get hit on by many men who list themselves as straight on their profiles... but admit to being bi privately.
Heh...I've had that very same experience quite a bit too!
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Old 12-09-2009, 05:39 PM
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Just for fun





OK, I'll stop now. heh But check your reactions, boys. Which one is hot, which one is disgusting?
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Old 12-09-2009, 05:58 PM
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Me too with the okcupid thing and bi men!

I think that all of those photos are hot. There is nothing I like more than a little boy on boy action. I love watching my husband and our tersiary getting it on. I like telling them what I want to see and take pictures of them.
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Which one is hot, which one is disgusting?
I'd rather watch guys fuck or blow each other than kiss..kissing is too intimate LOL!!
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Old 12-09-2009, 07:21 PM
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OK, I'll stop now. heh But check your reactions, boys. Which one is hot, which one is disgusting?
Neither one was hot (Madonna guarantees I stay limp); neither one was disgusting.

Were the first to involve other women--women whom I find attractive--that one could be hot. The other would still garner a "meh."
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Old 12-09-2009, 07:24 PM
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I'd rather watch guys fuck or blow each other than kiss..kissing is too intimate LOL!!

Thanks for being honest, Mono! And now you can, if you wish, explore why you think men shouldnt be intimate w each other.
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