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Old 09-22-2011, 02:53 AM
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Sometimes I'll sleep with my two partners but I often sleep in the spare room. I'm tall and I need my room to sleep comfortably.
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Old 09-22-2011, 03:24 AM
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I hear ya about that!!! I'm 6ft tall, which is tall for a lady, and I'm also somewhat er... fluffy. My hubby is 6'2" and my boyfriend is almost 6'6". His wife is average height but also of the somewhat fluffy variety, as is my husband's girlfriend (do we see a pattern here? lol) So sleeping together at least on a queen sized bed isn't always so comfy! We do manage it occasionally, however. Great news is, boyfriend and wife got a NEW KING SIZED bed today. I'm so excited! No more being squooshed into the wall!

That being said, we don't all sleep together, certainly not all the time. I will generally sleep on the couch when my husband's girlfriend comes over a) the bed isn't really big enough, and b) I like to give them the opportunity for alone time because they don't get it very often. She has kids and another SO, so when my husband goes there to visit they don't get much time to themselves.

When I go visit my boyfriend and his wife, we sleep together about half the time, and occasionally one of the two of them will sleep on the couch if they want to sprawl a little.
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Old 09-22-2011, 03:50 PM
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I hear ya about that!!! I'm 6ft tall, which is tall for a lady, and I'm also somewhat er... fluffy. My hubby is 6'2" and my boyfriend is almost 6'6". His wife is average height but also of the somewhat fluffy variety, as is my husband's girlfriend (do we see a pattern here? lol) So sleeping together at least on a queen sized bed isn't always so comfy! We do manage it occasionally, however. Great news is, boyfriend and wife got a NEW KING SIZED bed today. I'm so excited! No more being squooshed into the wall!

That being said, we don't all sleep together, certainly not all the time. I will generally sleep on the couch when my husband's girlfriend comes over a) the bed isn't really big enough, and b) I like to give them the opportunity for alone time because they don't get it very often. She has kids and another SO, so when my husband goes there to visit they don't get much time to themselves.

When I go visit my boyfriend and his wife, we sleep together about half the time, and occasionally one of the two of them will sleep on the couch if they want to sprawl a little.
Wow you folks are tall. I'm only 6'1".
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Old 09-22-2011, 09:16 PM
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I think part of the reason triads/unicorn relationships don't work out is because there is no room to move, to morph into what works. Generally there is an imbalance of time, depth of connection, interests, etc and I find that people seeking triads and unicorns are na´ve in thinking that there will be a complete balance. Generally this ends in one person suffering from that delusion and getting hurt because they had that fantasy. If it's a to work, I think all expectations and assumptions need to be dropped. That and working on your self for your self, not for "the couple" or anyone else, but because it comes down to the health and awareness of those involved.
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Old 09-22-2011, 11:49 PM
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*I* think it's because those couples have no clue what they're doing. They THINK they do, but they don't. They usually see themselves as "one" entity and expect the triad to be "one" entity. If you were intended to be a "one entity" triad, god would have made you conjoined triplets when you were born. It just doesn't fucking WORK that way.
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Old 09-24-2011, 02:15 PM
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I agree with many of the PP. I feel that it is near impossible to find a person who wants to be an addition to a couple, and if you do, you always have to take them into consideration. They may not have the same designs as you do, they may not be attracted to both of you, there are just way too many possible things to factor in. Don't get me wrong, I would SOO love a Unicorn to help us form a triad, but I am not going into this looking for one. I am just looking for someone to love, much like mono dating. If that someone happens to want to be with my spouse as well, BONUS!

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When I visit my partner at her home we don't sleep in her bed and they have limited space available and no formal guest room.

We have a terrific sex life and have basically destroyed a futon frame, and gone through about a half a dozen air mattresses in the past couple of years .... Mostly they leak slowly and we must re-pump or end up on the floor.

Has anyone got some good ideas and or experience with a functional bed that can be stored away when not in use?

I considered some of the BYO-bed designs but some are inflatable mattress units that I fear wouldn't be something one could use once or twice a week without fear ... Etc.

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Old 04-25-2012, 08:10 PM
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How much room is there to store this portable bed?

There are foldable memory foam mattresses that are easily stored, but still take up a bit of space. I've used one that was "MemorRest" brand and it was lovely, but I don't remember if it would comfortably sleep 2 adults - if you go that route, you may need 2 next to each other.

That's all I could think of that wouldn't rely on a frame or being inflated to keep it up.

Keith and I actually stopped having sex on our old bed because we were wearing down the frame... Have you considered just changing the location of your sex so that the place you sleep survives?
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Old 04-26-2012, 01:28 AM
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I saw a design for a bed that could be taken apart. It was a modern take on an old design used by nobility when on campaign. Collapses down, the frame that is, into roughly 6 boards and a piece of plywood or two. Just add a mattress and your set. I'll see what I can do about digging up the how to for it. My friend uses one when he goes to period events and uses an old futon mattress in it .
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Old 05-01-2012, 06:44 PM
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Totally off topic...but I read the header to this thread as

Portable bad ideas

and my first thought was Justin Bieber on a '70s-style boom box.

Outsider, there are inflatable beds that have these inflation/deflation control dials built in which you can use to harden or soften the mattress...which comes in very handy IME during various play activities. In fact they can be built into the play session; it can be really...amazing...how a difference in surface resistance can enhance many sensations/movement options.

The really sturdy/herky ones will cost a bit...but in my experience with one or more partners, they hold up so to speak.

Boyd Specialty Sleep makes a portable bed frame:
http://www.sportsmansguide.com/net/c...utm_medium=cse

Not sure how easily deployable that is, and you'd still need a mattress/squishy thing.

The only other option I can think of is a Murphy bed. For example:
http://www.murphybedsonline.com/prod...product-search

I'd be inclined to build it myself.

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