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Old 01-12-2012, 07:05 PM
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Well, you know my situation with 'T' . It got easier when he wasn`t around, and I haven`t yet 'settled' when he is around. I`m doing a excellent job of keeping it to myself though.

However, I long ago made the acknowledgement, and decision, that I can love 'NSA'. When you learn to let go of that 'angst' then there is a certain calmness, and acceptance that comes about. Self-discipline is also a handy tool.

I`m curious about nycindie`s 'lust' theory. I`ve had the hots for Gina Gershon for 12 years,....it isn`t dying down. Haha. :P
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Old 01-13-2012, 12:16 AM
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I think for the most part its ok... I don't see him often, I don't have long indepth conversations with him often, we pop up in each others' feeds on fb and occasionally I get a chance to talk to him on the phone.

Its when we have deep, intimate, indepth conversations that the love wells up and spills over into my psyche.

Although lately, more often than not, I feel like a giddy schoolgirl when he comments on something of mine...

*sigh*
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Old 01-13-2012, 05:40 AM
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Just enjoy the giddy feelings for what they are.
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Old 01-13-2012, 06:44 AM
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Self-discipline is also a handy tool.
Told ya before... I put my self-discipline somewhere so it was safe.... I can't find it now... dammit

I think it got put in the black hole that is my purse or possibly the black hole that is my bedroom closet...
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Old 01-15-2012, 08:32 PM
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Im in a simular situation too - loving someone who doesnt return that love, whom i have to see on a regular basis.

I hope you find peace, hell i hope we all do
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Old 01-19-2012, 12:31 AM
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When you learn to let go of that 'angst' then there is a certain calmness, and acceptance that comes about. Self-discipline is also a handy tool.
Very good point. Loving someone is a selfish matter. Sometimes its kind of cozy and warm to love without anyone knowing it or the person knowing it. Its a kind of secret joy and yes, a calm acceptance. I would even say a comfort. No one can take that away. When I am feeling like that for someone its almost the self discipline that makes it better.
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Old 01-30-2012, 05:47 PM
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After Saturday night, I really needed to read this over again.

It doesn`t change anything, but the 'T' in my story decided out of nowhere, to tell me all their thoughts and feelings for me. On one hand, the selfish side, is glad to know its not one-sided, nor imagined. On the other hand, it`s moot and doesn`t change anything. I need to just be grateful for the friendship and the knowledge I guess.

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Old 01-30-2012, 08:39 PM
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Here's my advice:

Sing along to the soundtrack of "Camelot," and go on dates with other people.

It works. Takes a while, but it works.
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