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Old 08-18-2009, 12:41 PM
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No RP, no set side or order for my ladies. Wherever they are is where they are. I must say my wife will often times make a point of nudging me toward the space between them if I stray to one side to window shop! She realizes how important it is to my OSO to feel an equal part of this threesome. Just one of the many thoughtful things she does.
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Old 08-18-2009, 08:37 PM
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ahhh, I wish my mine were so thoughtful....
They take great pleasure in tormenting me and getting me wound up.... as you can see on here, IT DOESN'T TAKE MUCH!

This past weekend we were moving our camper van that has been sitting for a couple of years. I always drive us everywhere, so I was the driver. Mono bugged me the whole time about how I was doing and my husband was right in on the festivities.... so mean!

I need to find some women with gentle souls to smooth my furrowed, tormented brow after a lashing of teasing from those two..... share?????
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Old 08-18-2009, 09:20 PM
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I only tease you because your husband forces me to...I have to listen...it's the role of a secondary according to my poly manual
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Old 08-19-2009, 04:04 AM
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RP and Mono you are soooo funnnyyyy!......but I understand completely. I am tormented by my two ladies during similar activities. It is a very desirable torment though. I wouldn't have it any other way! RP, I wish my ladies would offer up some comment/support for you, but so far they have been passive observers only. They are not bloggers, only offering the outside world an occasional email. I will pass along your interest.
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Old 08-19-2009, 02:08 PM
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Yes, I wouldn't have it any other way either

I'm sure your ladies pass on to you anything they might have to say. At least my husband does. It works.
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Old 08-21-2009, 02:43 PM
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As I am new to polyamory, I find comfort in your story mono, you have made me feel like there is light at the end of my tunnel.
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Old 08-21-2009, 02:46 PM
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As I am new to polyamory, I find comfort in your story mono, you have made me feel like there is light at the end of my tunnel.
I'm glad you do. Will you be sharing your story with us? Perhaps in the Introduction thread or New to Poly thread?

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Old 08-24-2009, 04:18 AM
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This weekend, Redpepper, her husband and I went to a potluck/party hosted by one of her co-workers. This was very important to me as I often visit Redpepper at work and I know they are always wondering if things are really "ok" with her husband and me.


Anyone who sees us clearly knows we both love her and are, ourselves, very close. We don't just accept each other, we care for each other. I love them both and have a need for people to see that I am not hurting him. We have been bonding more and more and are settling into just being together and not feeling like it is a host/guest dynamic when we are at their house.

Her husband made breakfast this morning after I spent the night, and as he and Redpepper ate theirs, I idly chatted while tidying up the kitchen. Every one was normal, natural, and completely at ease.

People who know us are finally starting to see and accept that we are more a family unit than a couple and their welcomed addition.

Through having people witness our relationship in everyday situations, I feel all of us moving forward and gaining confidence through our own internal normalization. I think each of us pause sometimes and realizes that this truly is real. We actually have to remind ourselves sometimes that this is not the societal norm because to us it simply is. When you reach that point it is hard to figure out what the big deal is for other people and we end up looking back with more puzzlement than those looking at us.

Thanks again Lilo…never forget how special you are and how you are the foundation of this incredible thing we are building. Our shared love is what holds us together but it is your bravery in taking a chance with this mono cracker that has given me a gift I can never repay regardless of what our future holds. You can bet I will try though…that is in my nature as much as loving you with everything I have is. I love you
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Old 08-24-2009, 05:34 AM
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you are the foundation of this incredible thing we are building.
Ha! it is my foundation, but really more and more we are becoming a team and building a beautiful house!

I had a dream this week about a house I often dream of. It is very old and huge, with many wings and rooms, passage ways and courtyards. I am fearful sometimes in my dream, but also have been happy and just content to exist in it.

This particular dream was different in that parts of the house were getting too old and the wood was rotting. I was worried and didn't know what to do to hold it together, no amount of work would fix it up again. My husband, son and Mono were all with me and there were others mingling in the background as I showed them what was going on. Mono found a door suddenly and said, "hey! look at this!" He opened it and let me through, I stepped into a brand new house with all three of them following. We immediately looked around, my boy running from room to room playing. Within seconds we were all settled and had left the old house behind.

I am indeed the foundation my love, but you have introduced us all to something totally new with your continued and endless love strength. You are helping us build a new house, together as a team! One that was meant for all of us. That is all so right love.

I love you more
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Old 08-24-2009, 05:36 AM
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I love you more
consider your ass smacked for sneaking that one in
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