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Old 07-13-2010, 12:34 PM
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Default got a phone call...

From someone I met at the local poly meeting... She, husband and gf were in town on family business. They invited me to dinner... and I had a wonderful time... great conversation.. and I got the friendship connection I've needed.

Two years ago I moved to Florida. Because I traveled with my job, I didn't establish solid friendships, just acquaintances. This conversation was like talking to old friends. I know that's an illusion, we don't know each other that well. But we've got common interests, and can laugh about things, and enjoy subjects that bore or shock most people. (sci-fi, medical conditions, past loves, etc. )

And I'll be able to help them next Saturday, moving some stuff... which makes me feel useful... and I get another dose of friendly banter.
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Old 07-13-2010, 02:06 PM
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Thankfully Derby and I are doing well. I don't feel I see her half as much as she requires and that makes me sad, but I can't do more than talk to her on MSN all day and see her with others around mostly except for our treasured dates every two weeks. This week we are going to the night market in a close by town. Dinner, market, smooches, cuddles and a much needed talk. I can't wait!
Please don't be sad. Although I'd love to see you more I'm very aware that you have others in your life who also need you and it would be incredibly selfish of me to ask you to take away from them. We're taking things at a pace that they need to be taken. Over time I expect that time commitments will change and that our families will become more intergrated. But there isn't any rush for that to happen. Our relationship will grow and change and develop just like any other relationship. I'm happy with where we are and excited to see where we will go.

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Old 07-13-2010, 04:39 PM
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Posted a couple of pics from pride and Poly camp. They all lookm happy enough to be mentioned here
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Old 07-14-2010, 08:44 PM
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I had a break down of honesty and I got caught up in trying to keep the peace when I should have been trying to be open and honest. LR and I had a blowout about it.

I took a hard look at how and why things had gone the way that they did. Found the problem and went about fixing it right away.

In doing so, I managed to open up the lines of communication between LR, E , and myself. In the end E and LR made a date to hangout, when LR comes up next month for her doctors appointment, I got the complete approval of E from LR. ( Which means alot me to me) and I learned a hugh lesson about myself and the rewards of COMPLETE honesty.


I had a nice moment with E, when she came to the hospital. I was there for my mother in-law and E happens to work there so she came by and took me to her office and fixed me some tea. We had a great talk and then we both texted LR about our time before we parted for the evening. Afterwards LR and I spent an hour or more talking about life, love, our goals and what we want to do with OUR future. Its was awesome!

Its sad that we will be leaving and E will still be here but the good that we can do for eachother in the time we have is worth it.


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Old 07-15-2010, 12:57 AM
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Its sad that we will be leaving and E will still be here but the good that we can do for eachother in the time we have is worth it.


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Old 07-15-2010, 04:13 AM
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Last night Redpepper, Polynerdist and I had a great discussion about connections and why some people value them more than others. Him and I are very similar in some ways and with Redpepper's input we reached some very interesting insights. I was laying on his bed as he folded laundry and Redpepper came in towards the end of the discussion. We were just two friends chatting. We have a great deal of trust in each other which has forged a bond that makes our talks very open and vulnerable. I really can't ask for a better friend in my life. Redpepper has given me a lot of gifts through her love and her husband's friendship is one of the most rewarding
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Old 07-16-2010, 12:35 AM
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Finding a way to negotiate through the hurt and frustration of Maca not being open and honest with me was a good thing.
I think we both found that we are much better with ourselves and each other now that we've looked again at the chasm of distance that exists in a "somewhat honest" relationship and decided that neither of us wish for that type of marriage.

I look forward to seeing how things develop from here.

I sure do look forward to seeing things develop when we are both here!!
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Old 07-16-2010, 12:57 AM
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So yesterday and last night = whole new level of connection between Violet and Adrian, which spilled over to me. This just keeps getting better.

There is now open talk of Adrian moving in and nobody is objecting. In fact, I am hearing happy noises from Violet and Lana about the idea and there may have been some discussion about paint colors in one of the presently empty rooms, lol.

Lana finally got to spend some alone time out with Adrian, which went as amazingly well as we all thought it would. They were last to connect with each other on a personal level and there was some concern over how the two "3rd's" would handle one another, especially as there is (as of yet, we're starting to wonder about Lana though, lol) no romantic interest there. No huhu - they had a blast.

On the one hand, this is moving REALLY fast - it's only been a couple of weeks since 1st date. On the other hand, we've all spent more time around her in those couple of weeks than most people would spend with a new flame in 2 months, lol. Literally, she's been with us almost constantly since first date, never more than 24 hours apart yet. She fits into our little troupe so naturally that noneof us can believe it's only been 2 weeks, lol - it really does feel like we're 6 months into this relationship.

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Old 07-16-2010, 01:21 AM
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She fits into our little troupe so naturally that noneof us can believe it's only been 2 weeks, lol - it really does feel like we're 6 months into this relationship.
Best wishes my friend, thanks for sharing happiness...keep us updated!
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Old 07-16-2010, 02:30 AM
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Of course I will.

I keep waiting for the "dude - it's only been a couple of weeks, are you crazy?" posts, I know they should be coming, lol. ESPECIALLY after what happened with Anne, which moved too fast - and not as fast as this!

On the other hand - if it's right and everyone feels it, is there such a thig as too fast? Violet and I moved extrememly quickly when we met, because niether of us could justify not doing so, lol. We tried; we talked about it - and then we'd jump right back into it. This feels very much the same way. And there was constant drama and concern and issue with Anne - and there is NONE with Adrian. She just settled into her comfort zone while we all found ours, and that was that, and now the meshing is well under way, and everything just fits. :shrug:
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