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Old 07-05-2009, 02:53 PM
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That's wonderful Mono......enjoy every moment like that, that you can! They sure feel good.

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Old 07-05-2009, 04:08 PM
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Knowing that all relationships have challenges, it is nice to read the positive aspects too. TFS
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Old 07-06-2009, 03:12 AM
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Agreed! This is a wonderful example of a positive poly relationship! I am happy for all of you.
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Old 07-06-2009, 01:58 PM
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It just got better too!! We had a major break through towards the future yesterday.

I recently became so threatened by the future that I completely devoted myself to living in the moment. There is nothing wrong with living in the moment, but I was so deep into it that I was stopping us from moving forward. It was great not thinking about anything but what I was doing at that time but I was missing something and Redpepper felt it too. I felt like there was no future which leaves blackness when we are not together.

We got to root of my issue revolving around insecurities which were blocking my ability to move forward. I simply had to ask for what I needed to feel secure in committing to her and her family on a deeper level. I am excited and more in love with her than ever
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Old 07-13-2009, 01:34 AM
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Just a very quick note I promise

There is a very calm and yet exciting security that has entered Redpepper and my relationship. Her husband asked that we all get together for a drink prior to our date night recently. I love these opportunities to group bond. We had a great time, lots of laughter and everything is just feeling so right. We all checked in and discussed what each of us was getting from the relationship. I was very tempted to forego private time with Redpepper and just hang out as a group. He is a very close friend and I would enjoy his company under any circumstances.

Again I am thankful to Redpepper for not only sharing her love with me but in also allowing me to make a wonderful new friend in her husband.
I continue to be amazed at just how lucky I am and how natural this all is

Thank you Lilo. You have very little idea just how immense and special the love I have for you and your family is...but I have lots of time and boundless energy to show you.
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Old 07-14-2009, 12:11 AM
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Thank you for sharing. I read these posts with a big smile and hope that we can all be as happy as you are.
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Old 07-14-2009, 01:30 AM
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With work every one can be for sure! It's never all butterflies, but there is so much good

You are very welcome and take care
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Old 07-16-2009, 05:40 AM
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With work every one can be for sure! It's never all butterflies, but there is so much good
Redpepper and me spoke about just how much work has gone into this relationship and achieving something that is growing and continues to amaze us. We are becoming normalized within our "V". When I say normalized I mean simply that it just feels like this is the way it is supposed to be. I'm not talking about the understanding of extended family, but the comfort amongst her, her husband and me. This also includes her son who has become bonded with me. I simply know she is there and we are all together with the welfare of each other put first. We feel like a constant...not static, but a constant that is evolving based on a rock solid core.

We fought an emotional war to get here. Twice we hit breaking points where we had to make decisions about staying together. Once it felt terminal, like there was no way to move forward. Our depth of love and the wisdom of her husband kept us fighting to find a way. It was a matter of knowing this was immensely worth it and not an effort to prove we could do it. It came from wanting to share lifetimes together. We fought with each other a little and within ourselves a lot. I certainly did.

This is so worth it. I have never struggled with something like this before and I'm sure Redpepper would say it was exhausting and almost too much at times. In our love and commitment to building a future we have made it I feel. Now it is our continuing growth and "normalizing" it for the rest of our friends and family that is our challenge. It is not inside us any more in a lot of ways. Now it is more a challenge of logistics and not love. Our love is secure.....I am proud of us.

I hope everyone gets exactly what they are looking for in this. Good luck and lots of love
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Old 07-16-2009, 06:55 AM
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We fought an emotional war to get here. Twice we hit breaking points where we had to make decisions about staying together. ....
This is so worth it. .....I am proud of us.
Wow, what a battle hey! I am proud of us too. What a long way from that conversation we had where you couldn't believe that my husband and I were still in love after all these years and couldn't believe that I wouldn't get bored at some point after our NRE wore off. I told you then that I would always love you and that this was real for me and that we could also be in love for a long time to come too. You looked so scared and disbelieving. There has never been a doubt in my mind. It is coming real... all that we wanted.

I think sometimes people get scared to face their fears when they get to a certain point in their relationships and are unable to move forward because of the disabling effect of that fear. In return they tend to stagnate and eventually fall out of love with one another. Of course sometimes people just get too busy and self absorbed also. What a gift it is when I face my fears and dive right into my relationships... I feel as if I have NRE (new relationship energy) all over again but on a deeper level! I know there is more NRE feelings to come as long as we work hard, it's our reward.... each other and the deepness of our love. I have it with my husband and now with you to Mono. i'm so lucky. Is it just luck? no, I think it's really hard work as well.... I love you. For all to hear. I love you.
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Old 07-16-2009, 06:42 PM
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Love is always hard work, guys.......but isn't the payoff great? Congrats and keep going.
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