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Old 09-04-2009, 05:41 AM
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Thanks for the update Mono.....hope it's not too traumatic for RP's parents....my wife has recently come out about our 3 to a few of my employees.....they are quite taken aback by it, moreso than I had imagined they would be......I'm a bit disappointed in them for that, they've known us for 15 years. They look to my wife and I as family, so I guess that would be how some family members might respond. Hopefully, not yours.....I am not sure how soon it might be before she'll inform our sons.....I know she has plans to tell a few friends next week while she's away on a fishing trip with them. I won't be there as I won't get into small planes....just a chicken, I guess......continued good luck and happiness to you all.
Hey Mark, long time no hear from you it seems... hope all is well...

Just wanted to write a quick note (hope Mono doesn't mind) to say that, my co-workers have known all along about Mono. They have seen him show up at my work, and hear stories, take his phone calls... but they have always been a bit skeptical as they also hear from my husband too.

Recently however that all changed as my co-worker had a BBQ and we all went. They got to see first hand how much we all get along together, how I take care of the needs of my men, how well they take care of me and how I disperse my time among them both. They also saw that my husband and Mono joke around a lot and are really good and close friends. Their attitude has totally changed and it has become evident in what they say and how they refer to them in my life. Hopefully one day this becomes a reality for the three of you also.
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Old 09-05-2009, 09:46 PM
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I thought I would include this update here because it is positive and hopeful despite all the sadness with coming out lately.

Redpepper's husband talked to his mother about how they live and my involvement with her and his family. She sees us as happy, thier son as happy and all of us loving. She now wants to get together for tea with me as well as with all of us together.

Hopefully her influence and reason will spread to Redpepper's parents
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Old 09-09-2009, 07:12 PM
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So this long weekend Redpepper, her husband, her son and I went camping again. We stayed with another poly couple and were visited by another poly couple as well...wow! This community really seems to be coming together, maturing and finding its way.

For me personally I am finding these social environments much more comfortable and simply enjoying the friendships that are forming. As a community we are moving away from feeling developmental and somewhat isolated and simply normalizing I think. I love seeing Redpepper's happiness in this and am finding my own now that me and her immediate family have built our foundation strong and healthy.

As a topper to the weekend, we were sitting on the couch having tea at Redpepper's house after unpacking our gear. Her son declared that we are a team. It was interesting because he said it out of the blue. He's a pretty happy boy IMO.
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Sorry to be out of touch for so long guys, but my OSO and I have been on a wonderful vacation for the past few weeks while my wife is off doing her thing in Alaska with bears and small planes that I won't get into. Thanks for the kind words RP. It sounds like your co-workers are really warming up to the idea of you and two guys....and Mono, how wonderful about RP's husband's mother and her acceptance. It sounds wonderful. I do hope this spreads over to her mom and dad as well. It just might take some time for the shock to wear off....and the topper is the wonderful comment made by their son! It couldn't be any better for a kid to have wonderful loving adults around setting a great example. Keep it up! You guys are doing something right.....I hope we all continue to nourish and flourish in our poly lives.....
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Old 09-16-2009, 05:58 PM
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Not much of an update. Just thought I would mention that Redpepper continues to amaze me more and more and my love for her grows daily Her husband and son are incredible and a blessing in my life.

I have learned so much about who I am and how I work from her. With her I have come to understand the raw power of connection and the role sexual intimacy has in my life.....sadly to say this has made me more monogamous than ever LOL! I am forever changed from this journey and made a better man by her influence and intelligence.....She is the most trusted person to ever enter my life and she knows it...what else is there to say other than I am hers for as long as she can stand her Mono Vanilla Cracker

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Gonna join in the thread here and share the fun I had talking with my guy C's new gal last night. We all hopped into an IM chatroom and just talked for a couple hours, and by the end we were all laughing to tears and she was reluctant to go to bed!

C's also told me that they have agreed to take things as they go and progress through a solid friendship first and if things go further than they do. I'm just happy that she seems accepthing of the relationship already established and seems to like me as well. And she's very similar in personality to C so I like her too!

C was so happy and bouncy (literally bouncy ... he's adorable) that we got along great and he's having so much fun, which makes me even happier.

I'm still waiting for the hiccups, which I know will come eventually... especially if they progress to anything serious. Supposedly she's been through a bad marriage and hasn't been in a poly relationship before, so I'm wary but at the moment happy and content, as is C and I hope she is too.

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Old 09-21-2009, 05:19 AM
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This weekend was a busy one for our loving little "v"!! Friday night Redpepper came over, as is almost the norm now, and then we went right into a Saturday consisting of two different parties with two different groups and attended by two different partnerships!!

First, Redpepper and me attended a party for friends of ours close to my home. They know her husband and our chosen family dynamic but are from the traditional mono "less than sex positive" environment I am used to and are friendships that me and her have built. We always have a good time with them and every now and then we get to raise a few eyebrows by mentioning her husband around people who don't know us as well.

Next we went to her place so she and her husband could go to a party primarily consisting of our poly friends, of which there are quite a few actually. I stayed with their son and spent the night. I love giving to them in this way as bringing them closer is a way for me to strengthen my connection with myself.

They had a great time and in the morning their son and me watched TV and hung out while they slept. He was very happy to have a "date morning" with me LOL!

We are learning how to balance our time better since we have lost a babysitting resource for a while but again this only proves we all want this

More good news is that Redpepper's husband's mom is going to baby-sit for us so we can all go to our monthly poly meeting!! She has been great in all this

And lastly, one more bit of happy news is Redpepper actually got to talk to my sister on the phone which was very cool! My sister asks about my chosen family's well being now and is concerned for the troubles with Redpepper's family. That is an external step forward that makes me grin from ear to ear!!

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Old 09-21-2009, 06:12 AM
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there are some things you missed my love....

My husbands Mum invited us all for supper next weekend to welcome Mono to our family! Geez, My Mum must be hitting the roof!

My brother has done well so far. He is concerned about my relationship with my husband, but is accepting. He is just confused that this might not be it... He'd like to believe that we added Mono and that will be it forever, not that it is fluid and that change will occur. After all, my husband is dating someone too and that hasn't come up yet...!
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This is great to hear guys. Slowly but surely, one day at a time.
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Old 09-21-2009, 06:15 AM
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After all, my husband is dating someone too and that hasn't come up yet...!
Well I will be by both your sides for support
Good points Lilo..thanks for adding those...

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