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Old 06-29-2014, 06:00 PM
PolyinPractice PolyinPractice is offline
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Oooh, I like this! And glad you are okay (I hope?)

Well, at the moment he's with family, in a different city. Out on the beach almost every day. And, yesterday, in the middle of the afternoon, I get a picture text from him with him peering over the shoulder of his baby girl, who is resting on his lap, with her head on his shoulder, utterly exhausted. His gaze was focused on me (or where I would've been if I'd been there). It made me feel like I was right there with him. Kind of that split screen effect from movies, if that makes sense. I felt so warm (and I love his daughter so much as well, so it was wonderful to get a picture of her, as well as a second pic of all three of them climbing around).
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Old 06-29-2014, 06:47 PM
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I just updated my blog with this, but here it is again.

My husband is in another city, helping his mother cope with the soon-to-be passing of his father. I am feeling melancholy and torn over this.

My boyfriend turned yesterday into an entire day of distraction for me - we went whitewater tubing on the Potomac River, had a nice dinner at a local Thai restaurant, frozen yogurt at a place with a crazy toppings bar, followed by snuggling on the couch, watching Les Miserables in the living room, and then he just held me until I fell asleep in our bed.

This morning he got up at 6 am to take my son to work, and then went back out again to bring him home. Later he is taking me grocery shopping.

Yeah, he's pretty great. This is the poly relationship I have always wanted - comfort, love and support. He's a keeper.
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Old 06-29-2014, 07:32 PM
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My partner has several chronic illnesses, both physical and mental. This means A) he can't hold a regular job and B) almost all the housework falls on me. For understandable reasons, this stresses me the hell out, seriously interferes with my ability to have any other relationships, and puts a major strain on our relationship. Lot of balls get dropped around here, and not in a good way.

Yesterday was my first day off in a while. No paying work to do and a bare minimum of housework--mainly cooking and giving the kid a bath. Without saying anything to me, and while I was getting dinner ready, he got everything together, took the kid into the bathroom and went through the potty training routine and gave him a bath.

When I saw him heading towards the bathroom with the kid and a towel over his shoulder I just stopped and stared. He gave me the sweetest smile and said, "I got it."
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Old 06-29-2014, 09:40 PM
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Here is a text I got from my man who is traveling this weekend:
"LovelyLady, you're something I could've never imagined! I love you more than you'll ever know! I respect you in so many ways you cannot fathom. And I appreciate everything you do for me."

Funny how a few words can make the happy tears fall.
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Old 06-29-2014, 10:19 PM
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I don't have something current, because anyone who's read my blog the past week knows I'm in a very dark place right now.

But I have something Guy said to me a few weeks ago, when I was worried about a situation with a "friend" who was trying to turn him against me, that was so sweet I wrote it on the markerboard above my desk:

"Remember, knowledge is certainty. You know I love you and am with you, so cling to that when fear starts to rear its head."

(Sometimes I think my two men are actually one split in half: Guy is the romantic, emotional half, and Hubby is the logical, almost robotic half.)
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Old 06-29-2014, 11:40 PM
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My metamour (Brother-Husband) picked out some serious B.I. (Bad Influence) for me (Laceys Milk Chocolate Macadamia Nut Cookies) while he and Snowbunny were shopping (at Trader Joe's) a bit earlier today. I stashed them in the top of my closet. They're mine, all mine!

Now that's literally sweet.
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Old 06-29-2014, 11:50 PM
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Right this moment curled up on the couch with Murf. Enjoying our weekend together with the kids and puppy.

Enjoying a quiet weekend at home. Tomorrow to the other house I share with Butch.
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Old 06-30-2014, 03:42 AM
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For those who asked, I tore or massively sprained a ligament in my foot, sprained an ankle, sprained my other foots big toe, ant to top it all off I tweaked both of my knees. LOL I am a hot mess at the moment, and will be for a few days more than likely. But I will be fine, and I can walk (albeit painfully, and worse than Igor from young Frankenstine...at least I know I look goofy and am ok with it ) etc. Though I'm probably not going to be doing any stairs for a few more days

In other awesome news...boyfriend is moving in!!!!! I'm sooooooo excited!!! Though less so about actually clearing out the space lol But if there was ever a reason to get me happy and excited for monster spring cleaning this is it!
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Old 06-30-2014, 07:31 PM
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Glad your boyfriend is moving in. Take it easy on those feetsies, okay?
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Old 07-21-2014, 03:01 AM
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So, this isn't as happy of a success as some of the other ones talked about on this thread, but I feel it is success and deserves to be told.

In October 2011, I started dating a guy that essentially became a co-primary to my husband. I spent about half of my time with him eventually. Last May, he broke up with me. It was incredibly painful, but I worked hard to get over it. I've talked to him some over the last year, but not much.

Last month he broke up with the girlfriend that was a huge part of why he broke up with me. I reached out to him to see if he needed someone to talk to. About two weeks ago (on a Tuesday), we got together. We were going to go out to coffee, but I ended up at his studio apartment to pick him up, we got talking and laid down on his bed to talk. We were both exhausted and fell asleep in each other's arms, which felt incredibly healing. We talked about how neither one of us could do that sort of relationship with each other again, but that it'd be nice to be friends (and occasionally have sex, because I love having sex with him, it's amazing).

The Saturday following that day (the 12th of July), I had a really traumatic experience (along with about a thousand other people, unfortunately). I've been struggling all week with depression and anxiety, triggered by that event and how it relates to my own history. My ex-boyfriend has been one of the biggest supports for me in this past week. He's invited me over to his apartment twice and just held me as I've cried. He's dealt with anxiety for a couple of years, so he's patiently answered my texts and assured me that it will get better. Probably slowly, but it will get better. My husband has had a trip planned for months that he left for Friday night (he'll be gone for 2 weeks. I encouraged him to go because he was there for the trauma also and needs to be able to get on with his life and this is part of it). My ex-boyfriend found out that I was home by myself yesterday and invited me over. He let me stay for hours (this is one of the two times he's had me over in the last week). He made sure I ate, he held me while I slept for a nap.

We'll never be what we were for that year and a half again, but we've managed to rebuild a friendship that has been incredibly helpful in one of the most painful weeks of my life. And that, to me, is a poly success. That we've managed to salvage this part of our relationship that works and that we're able to support each other when we need it (I hope I can return the favor if he needs it).
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