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Old 09-24-2010, 06:12 PM
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I am excited! It feels weird to me, but I'm so comfortable and happy surrounded by these people. I'm so happy and comfortable when I can let go and not feel weak or ignorant when I let Easy be in charge.

I loved the sub meeting, which is very unusual because I hate social situations. No one tried to touch me without my consent, not even a hug, which I loved because I don't hug unless I know you fairly well. Asha and Sunday talked and he agreed to go to a meet-up in October. Everything seems to be going well, knock on wood.

Except, I accidentally pocket-dialed my brother during the sub meeting...whoops!
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Old 09-27-2010, 06:24 PM
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Thank you all. Due to the responses I've read on this thread, and the research I've done with the local BDSM community and on FetLife, I've gained new understanding, something I've been seeking for nearly two years.

I'm a submissive who is not into pain or humiliation. I've happily learned that you don't have to be into pain or humiliation, or *have* to be into *anything*, that you get to define yourself and no one else gets to. I've learned that my desire to please has an outlet, and I don't have to let anyone tell me that it's unhealthy or co-dependent if it makes me happy to serve my partners. I've learned that you can be a sub and still be an independent, strong, respected and valued woman. I have joyously discovered that I don't have to fight the desire to serve my husband, something I fought because of the way my male relatives treat their wives, because the difference between me and them is that I am valued and I would not do it if there was no mutual respect in the relationship, nor would I be expected to. I have found answers about myself that tell me I am not a freak or an anomaly, I am not a victim, I am not degraded or humiliated. I am overjoyed.
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Old 09-28-2010, 12:05 AM
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I'm so happy for you lemondrop!
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Old 09-28-2010, 01:43 AM
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Lemondrop!
I'm SO PROUD OF YOU!

I'm so proud of you for pushing through all of the confusing information to find the pieces of trivia you needed to be able to accept YOURSELF!!!

That's EXCELLENT!

That's WONDERFUL!

Big hugs! I feel like giggling out loud right now!
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Old 09-28-2010, 04:22 AM
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Thank you all. Due to the responses I've read on this thread, and the research I've done with the local BDSM community and on FetLife, I've gained new understanding, something I've been seeking for nearly two years.

I'm a submissive who is not into pain or humiliation. I've happily learned that you don't have to be into pain or humiliation, or *have* to be into *anything*, that you get to define yourself and no one else gets to. I've learned that my desire to please has an outlet, and I don't have to let anyone tell me that it's unhealthy or co-dependent if it makes me happy to serve my partners. I've learned that you can be a sub and still be an independent, strong, respected and valued woman. I have joyously discovered that I don't have to fight the desire to serve my husband, something I fought because of the way my male relatives treat their wives, because the difference between me and them is that I am valued and I would not do it if there was no mutual respect in the relationship, nor would I be expected to. I have found answers about myself that tell me I am not a freak or an anomaly, I am not a victim, I am not degraded or humiliated. I am overjoyed.
WOOT! Self discovery and self worth are worth their weight in gold! Way to go!
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Old 09-29-2010, 11:50 PM
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I need help quick - I have a question:

What is the gender-specific term for a "male dominatrix".

This is for a conversation I'm having on another forum.

"Dominatron"?
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Old 09-30-2010, 12:13 AM
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Dom.

Dominus.

Master.
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Old 09-30-2010, 02:29 AM
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My favorite female domme term is domina...

I know you didn't ask that, but it sure rolls off the tongue nicely.
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Old 09-30-2010, 02:54 AM
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I prefer Domina too,..Ma`am also works well.

Not a big fan of 'Domme', or "Mistress" but it`s what people generally know.
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Old 09-30-2010, 03:06 PM
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Look around for Vet Tape too. Its something a little birdie told me would work well for bondage, and it does in a pinch...
Ah, thanks for the rec. That's kind of like Ace Bandages? A cat of mine once had the vet wrap that around a large cut he got in a fight.

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sometimes tying all that rope can be a real turnoff.
Well, we found it quite the opposite, but gf only did rope bondage on me one time, so far. I didn't expect the actual tying to be the best part! *drool* Not that we didnt do other exciting things once I was fully bound...
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