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Old 07-16-2010, 09:03 PM
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Must remember to keep screen small when I'm at work... I opened up this thread and *pop* there was the picture of the toy.

I have something similar as well
Oh my. That could be bad.

Mine is more... "cute" then that picture. That is your "basic pic"

But if you go searching-which we did, you can find some REALLY cool looking ones and some that have added.........features? (not sure that's a good choice of word) to make them feel different/better.
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Old 07-17-2010, 05:09 AM
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So my last post on this thread got terminated abruptly. ( work)

I was talking about " Brats" and my way of dealing with punishments for that intentional behavior. I will say that although it is very powerful ( at the right times) I have very rarely ( in fact only once) ever had to do that to LR. She is very obedient. She takes alot of pride in doing as she is told.


I have many well laid out plans for her once she gets back here in Aug. Happy times are comming
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Old 07-20-2010, 02:33 AM
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So some of this may have already been covered, but I'm in a bit too much pain to have the attention span to read through this whole thread. So please take pity on me if you've already covered this.

Karma and I switch off and on who is more dominant in our day to day lives, but in the bedroom I tend to be pretty submissive, vanilla, embarrassed and uncertain of what to do. I 've always wanted to try new things but never know where to start or what to try.

We've recently found I enjoy being spanked and having my hair pulled. But I don't know what else to try, nor do I know how to give back to him. Given my fibromyalgia, I've been a bit unsure of things b/c I am affraid of the pain, but tonight he tried spanking pretty hard and holding me down and it went really well. Apparently the fibro pain takes a backseat to pleasure?

So anyway, I'm looking for some advice of what to try, for either of us. I want to be more adventurous but I'm always to damn shy to do anything. Which is really odd given my normal day to day personality. I'd love to hear any advice or thoughts on ways to get started and in the mean time I'll try to make it through reading this thread before the pain pills kick in
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Old 07-20-2010, 02:48 AM
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Maybe try some sensory deprivation stuff. Being tied up, blind folded, ear plugs, that kind of thing. Then do some light touching with different things or harder as the case maybe. Whatever you think you will like. Experiament with it. You could also try some denial of sex in this way, teasing, being made to wait, being forced to cum, which ever, both. Again, as you see fit.

Also some spoken stuff, like swear words, teasing. That sort of thing. Again, creativity is the key.

There is so much on line to inspire! Right now I'm into sitting on cakes and destroying toys with my heels while I talk dirty to them. You just never know where things will lead!
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Old 07-20-2010, 03:20 AM
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Maybe try some sensory deprivation stuff. Being tied up, blind folded, ear plugs, that kind of thing.
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Old 07-20-2010, 03:39 AM
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For ideas-I found that looking through BDSM contracts and checklists online was EXTREMELY helpful.
Check out some of these:

www.thebrc.net/check_list/default.htm

http://www.soulshaven.f2s.com/newche...rfriendly.php3

http://www.leathernroses.com/general....htm#contracts
(this site has a lot of useful resources beyond this too. I suggest reading through their articles.

www.bdsm-education.com


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Old 07-20-2010, 12:09 PM
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Right now I'm into sitting on cakes...
hehe!

My gf and I have used each other as sushi tables.

More recently, I was eating berries and Redi-whip and started feeding her some. Oh, the places that whipped cream went...
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Old 07-29-2010, 07:17 PM
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My involvement in BDSM is extremely limited and focussed. It is something I share with Redpepper. We play in private and go to public events which I really enjoy although I am not sure why. Part of it is that I am proud to be "owned" by her in body and heart and I want people to know it. Part of it is also the looks people give us when she is filling the room with the sounds of her flog thumping away on me. And they have great props to use! I don't find BDSM events to be sexually charged because of those around me and find that nakedness losses it's lustre in these environments. It's not that I find it disturbing or anything, I just find it uninteresting. I'm more interested in trying to figure out why they are doing the things they do rather than trying to look at their bodies. I do not explore BDSM online through things like Fetlife. I am basically disturbed by the open sexuality I see because it often involves people soliciting each other and often my friends have very revealing profiles. Public events have good rules to limit the sexual nature of play which I find comforting. Online is almost completely open and very sexually graphic. Seeing strangers engaged in sex acts is perfectly fine with mei.e. porn is a turn on. I see the people as mere bodies interacting. I don't want to see my friends in a sexual way...I don't care what their tits and penises look like and I don't care what they get off on sexually. It's a level of intimate knowledge I don't need or desire. I am interested in why they partake in certain forms of BDSM however.

So why do I truly like BDSM play?

I understand why I enjoy things like heavy impact and being bound. I achieve depth and love in relationships through trust. I achieve greater levels of trust through making myself more vulnerable. In BDSM, when I surrender the ability to hear, move, and see to Redpepper, I am making myself very vulnerable and therefore giving her the opportunity to hurt me beyond my control and ability to protect myself. It is a risk but one that builds trust. More trust equals more love for me. So my journey revolves around finding ways to make myself more vulnerable to her which only serves to increase my love for her.
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I understand why I enjoy things like heavy impact and being bound. I achieve depth and love in relationships through trust. I achieve greater levels of trust through making myself more vulnerable. In BDSM, when I surrender the ability to hear, move, and see to Redpepper, I am making myself very vulnerable and therefore giving her the opportunity to hurt me beyond my control and ability to protect myself. It is a risk but one that builds trust. More trust equals more love for me. So my journey revolves around finding ways to make myself more vulnerable to her which only serves to increase my love for her.
I was thinking about that the other day too. It really does seem to be all about trust, on both sides. That trust builds intimacy. I'm still new on this journey and I have no idea where it will lead me yet.
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It really does seem to be all about trust, on both sides. .
For some it is, for some it is a way to achieve or add to sex. The motivations seem incredibly individual as do the levels of seriousness towards it as a culture and community.
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