BDsm

[Magdlyn]

Kittens, I am a switch. I get off on domestic service to my gf. I love to make her coffee and serve it to her. Declutter her house, do her laundry, clean her small rodents' cages, sweep floors, light incense, do dishes (I actually hate doing dishes, but when it's for her... it's different.) Lotion her feet and legs. Bathe her and shave her pubes.

Also I love when she gets in a mood and "rapes" me late at night, fists me, fucks me hard and dominantly, and beats my willing ass to a pulp.



On the other hand, I also love when I have a date w a boytoy and she gets off on me having been off acting the Sex Goddess with someone else. And I enjoy wrapping her in Saran Wrap, blindfolding her, and doing sensation play, ice, wax, feathers, fur, sitting on her face, gradually tearing away the Saran to expose her ass, which might have a plug in it. Exposing her nipples and sucking on them. Beating her good and hard til she whimpers and cries. Exposing her coochie and sucking and fingering it til she cums... hard. Then of course, unwrapping her and having the cuddly aftercare session.... mmmm

Mmmm, I love being a switch.

[redpepper]

oh the visual I am getting Magdlyn, meaowwwww

[Derbylicious]

This is just here because I'm not sure where else to post it. I had a dream last night where I was with a group of people and I wanted to do something (can't remember what exactly) and someone in the group (which was a person who I had seen irl earlier in the day but don't really know) said to me "shouldn't you be asking your owner permission first?" (referring to redpepper) I couldn't stick around in the group after that, my feeling is that I'm my own person and no one owns me. I think that's my biggest fear of becoming involved with bdsm at all is that I will somehow become the property of someone else.

I just wanted to get that out since it's been on my mind this morning. Thanks!

-Derby

[Ariakas]

Originally Posted by Derbylicious

This is just here because I'm not sure where else to post it. I had a dream last night where I was with a group of people and I wanted to do something (can't remember what exactly) and someone in the group (which was a person who I had seen irl earlier in the day but don't really know) said to me "shouldn't you be asking your owner permission first?" (referring to redpepper) I couldn't stick around in the group after that, my feeling is that I'm my own person and no one owns me. I think that's my biggest fear of becoming involved with bdsm at all is that I will somehow become the property of someone else.

I just wanted to get that out since it's been on my mind this morning. Thanks!

-Derby

Thats a great dream, and in such detail.

You have the right to whatever you want in your own bdsm listing. Just make hard rules like "I don't not want to be referred to as property and am not owned by anyone"...some people like that, and some don't. Don't only come up with or explore your potential fetishes, find things you don't like and list them.

http://www.thebrc.net/check_list/default.htm

Create your own bdsm checklist and hold it to truth. Be as flexible as YOU want to be. I may eventually sub for someone, but I have the same hang up. For the longest time, when I discussed personal submission, it was only ever a physical contest for me. I would only submit if someone could actually force me to. While I have never submitted to someone, this has been modified quite a bit to be more inclusive.

Some people live the lifestyle, some people live the lifestyle in the bedroom and others play.

[Derbylicious]

When you haven't really participated in any way before it's a little hard to know where your limits are. I have so much to learn and I don't even feel like I have the tools to know what to ask.

[MonoVCPHG]

Originally Posted by Derbylicious

I think that's my biggest fear of becoming involved with bdsm at all is that I will somehow become the property of someone else.



-Derby

BDSM can be as much dress up and play with no lingering dynamic if you chose it to be. I am very submissive at events and love the idea of being owned by Redpepper during these times. You can have fun with it for sure. And you don't need to go as a submissive to anyone. Lots of our friends just go to watch but enjoy dressing up. I have other friends that live it 24 and 7.

I'll stay on the leash...GRRRR...you can just have fun...besides, I might need a nurse if Redpepper has built up any more strenght by the next event...I like it heavy and hard

[MonoVCPHG]

Originally Posted by Derbylicious

When you haven't really participated in any way before it's a little hard to know where your limits are. I have so much to learn and I don't even feel like I have the tools to know what to ask.

Limits?...my nipples are a no go zone pretty much...and sharp little smacks on my lilly white butt sting like crazy! Other then that you could pretty much beat the shit out of me with a wiffle bat

[Derbylicious]

Originally Posted by MonoVCPHG

BDSM can be as much dress up and play with no lingering dynamic if you chose it to be. I am very submissive at events and love the idea of being owned by Redpepper during these times. You can have fun with it for sure. And you don't need to go as a submissive to anyone. Lots of our friends just go to watch but enjoy dressing up. I have other friends that live it 24 and 7.

I'll stay on the leash...GRRRR...you can just have fun...besides, I might need a nurse if Redpepper has built up any more strenght by the next event...I like it heavy and hard

Dress up and play I can do. 24/7 not so much (at least at this point). I tend to get a little ahead of myself in my mind and jump right to the end of something rather than just taking the steps along the way. Not everything has to be set in stone right now (or ever for that matter). It's a journey, much like the discovery of poly has been and my bisexuality before that, both of which I'm pretty comfortable with now but neither were things that I discovered quickly by any means and there was a lot of redefinition along the way.

-Derby

[Derbylicious]

Originally Posted by MonoVCPHG

Limits?...my nipples are a no go zone pretty much...and sharp little smacks on my lilly white butt sting like crazy! Other then that you could pretty much beat the shit out of me with a wiffle bat

A whiffle bat? Aren't those the orange ones with the holes in them? I think I've seen people beat the shit out of each other with those, but those people tend to be under 4 feet tall!

[Ariakas]

Originally Posted by Derbylicious

When you haven't really participated in any way before it's a little hard to know where your limits are. I have so much to learn and I don't even feel like I have the tools to know what to ask.

well you just defined one up there ^^ ...

Experiment, have fun with it and communicate clearly your fears and if you feel a limitation.

I will give you an example. I was more experienced and far more aggressive in bondage play than Pengrah had ever experienced. Our first experience together was to much for her, she had to create a hard limit for being completely bound. Limitations come with a caring partner and experimenting...

That brings up an interesting point in my own head. I wonder how many people were introduced to bdsm in a manner that turned them off, without patience. hmmmm...