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Hi everyone,
Currently a MDC student. Major is nursing. Long term goals are to be a RN BSN. I'm doing a project on polyamory for sociology. Trying to get a better understanding from actual people rather than articles. I'm not here to judge anyone for any reasons. What is polyamory? Why do you choose to be polyamorous? How many people are usually involved in the relationship? Does anyone get jealous of others in the relatioynships? How do you coupe with the jealousy? Last edited by gator86; 11-20-2011 at 04:04 PM. Reason: spelling |
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Help me please
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Literally, it is "multiple loves." It means something different to everyone who practices it, but generally it refers to the respectful, honest practice of having loving, romantic relationships with more than one person at a time.
I didn't choose it. Most people don't. While some people are brought into it by being with a partner who identifies that way, many polyamorist people have always felt that monogamy makes no sense to them and is not a viable relationship model for their own lives. I knew I was polyamorist ever since I hit puberty and started being aware of dating and marriage. I thought marriage was stupid, because how can you ever be with just one person for the rest of your life? As I got older, I learned that you can have your cake and eat it too. You can get married and have all the joys, securities, and comforts that it brings, but without giving up your need to be with other people also. About 10 years ago, I learned that there's an actual term for the way I had always felt: polyamory. So it's not like I read about it and thought "Hey that sounds cool, I'll try it." It's that I always felt that way, and then I read about it and thought "Holy crap! You mean other people feel that way too!? You mean it's ALLOWED??!?" More than one, less than one hundred? Honestly, you can be "polyamorous" and even in a "polyamorous relationship" even if you're not currently involved with more than one person. I hazard a guess that most people would have trouble maintaining more than five simultaneous relationships, just due to time and energy constraints. But I guess you could have a "one big house" type situation with all kinds of chains and circles and loops. The sky's the limit, really. There's no general answer to that question. Yes, some people get jealous because the alternative would be that no one ever gets jealous and that's not the case. But everyone manages jealousy and envy in their own ways (do a search on the forum to find the difference). The general principle is that you have to own your emotions as being your reactions, not the fault of the other people involved. So the best way to deal with jealousy is to seriously inspect yourself, your thoughts, your motivations, and find out what you're afraid of and decide whether those fears are justified. It is almost never the case that the way to manage jealousy is to put restrictions on your partner. That just leads to resentment, and it doesn't solve the problem.
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p.s. replying to your own message less than thirty minutes after posting it, making another request for help could be considered high-maintenance and demanding. It was before 10a.m. on a Sunday morning, people are busy doing their thing. Give it time.
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1) Is this research for satisfying your own personal curiosity, a project in a particular class, or for publication? That makes a difference in how you present it: I'm certain many people on this site have privacy concerns, and would like to give informed consent before answering a survey the results of which are intended for publication elsewhere. If the results are intended for publication (and online/facebook/youtube coverage might count!), you should probably consult your institution's IRB regarding protocol.) 2) Is this the best board for this post? (A question for the moderators, as much as for anyone.) Unless this is intended for "media coverage" . . . regarding which, see question 1 . . . Also, you might draw more attention to the thread under a different title: "Survey for Class Project" (e.g., if that's what it is).
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