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Old 09-09-2011, 09:34 AM
Polyester Polyester is offline
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Default From part of a nuclear family to quite queer in a week

My husband G and I opened our relationship since I was in love with another man (M) as well. I explained this to M and he was willing to give it a try. Then my husband (relieved by me breaking our hetero-mono-normativity) came out as maletofemale transsexual. So I ended up with a wife (now named O) and a boyfriend. This was less than eight months ago.

M is currently not so comfortable with "the poly thing", but still wants to stay in the relationship anyway.

O is transitioning and is about to get hormones. We have a child (J who is 2,5 years old) and we have tried to get us pregnant since O came out, since trans people must be sterialized in Sweden to be able to transition legally.

This is my current situation. I am glad to be here.
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Old 09-10-2011, 04:36 AM
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ImaginaryIllusion ImaginaryIllusion is offline
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Welcome to the Forum.
“People who say it cannot be done should not interrupt those who are doing it.” - Chinese Proverb

-Imaginary Illusion

How did I get here & Where am I going?
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Old 09-10-2011, 01:20 PM
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Magdlyn should find you soon. She's a wealth of knowledge and compassion for the trans folk that come here, and their partners.

Not that the rest of us aren't a compassionate lot, but actual experience makes advice so much more relevant.
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Old 09-12-2011, 01:46 PM
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Well, I don't know if you need any advice or support, Polyester, but I am in a relationship with a transwoman, and genderqueer myself. Welcome to the board!

miss pixi and I are both pansexual and poly. I'm not in any other relationships right now (except one long distance one), but miss pixi has a bi boyfriend.
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley

Mags (poly, F, 62), dating... again!
Pixi (poly, F, 40) my darling nesting partner since January 2009
Master, (mono, M, 36), Pixi's Dom/bf since April 2013
Kahlo (my ex, 46)
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Old 11-03-2011, 06:42 PM
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Thank you all! The transitioning is going fine. O is on her way to get hormones and we are reinventing our sex life. I will probably need more on that later, but now I am more concerned about my mono boyfriend. He has not gotten used to me loving two people and that will make it problematic for me to spend more time with him. My ideal is us all living together, but that will not work if he can't stand seeing me show O affection. I will have to enjoy what I've got and practice patience.
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Old 11-03-2011, 07:26 PM
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There's a blog here from Evrchanging that is in large part about her husband's transition to being her wife. You and O might get a lot out of it.
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Old 11-06-2011, 06:22 AM
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It's refreshing and inspiring and just...it makes me happy to see a wife who loved her husband so much that she loves him as a person not as a man. Restores a bit of my faith in humanity.
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