Hello,
My 27-year-old older sister recently came out on google+ as poly and bi. My mother has known for a week or two, but I found out through the social media outlet. Her post said the following (because she posted in publicly, I don't feel as if I am invading her privacy):
"I'm polyamorous and I'm bi. Take me for who I am, ask me questions if you want, but if you don't like it, move on. I'm not changing for you."
My mother and I were a bit confused and hurt by this post because, as a family, we are generally very open and have never asked her to change herself. (I should mention that we are not telling my father, who still thinks that sexuality is a choice =/ ) We're not entirely sure where this anger-or appearance of anger-is coming from. In the last few years, my sister has pulled away from our extended family and skips most family events. She and I have never had a good relationship, but I always chalked that up to our extreme differences of personality. We don't live near each other and rarely talk, but there is no on-going feud or animosity.
I am straight and mono, but have many gay and bisexual friends. This is, however, my first interaction with polyamory. I was hoping I could get some insights to how the relationships work and how I can further understand my sister's lifestyle. Any thoughts would be great!
My 27-year-old older sister recently came out on google+ as poly and bi. My mother has known for a week or two, but I found out through the social media outlet. Her post said the following (because she posted in publicly, I don't feel as if I am invading her privacy):
"I'm polyamorous and I'm bi. Take me for who I am, ask me questions if you want, but if you don't like it, move on. I'm not changing for you."
My mother and I were a bit confused and hurt by this post because, as a family, we are generally very open and have never asked her to change herself. (I should mention that we are not telling my father, who still thinks that sexuality is a choice =/ ) We're not entirely sure where this anger-or appearance of anger-is coming from. In the last few years, my sister has pulled away from our extended family and skips most family events. She and I have never had a good relationship, but I always chalked that up to our extreme differences of personality. We don't live near each other and rarely talk, but there is no on-going feud or animosity.
I am straight and mono, but have many gay and bisexual friends. This is, however, my first interaction with polyamory. I was hoping I could get some insights to how the relationships work and how I can further understand my sister's lifestyle. Any thoughts would be great!