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Old 11-16-2011, 02:55 PM
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Updates! Not really, more like just checking in and yammering.

So I still haven't come up with a nickname for the guy I've been seeing besides Hot Stuff, Macho and Romeo, but I'll call him TDH for now, short for "tall, dark and handsome", because that about sums him up. He went to a chess tournament last weekend, and I went to his hotel room on Saturday. We hung out and messed around a little, which was nice. I really like spending time with him. He's one of those people that are just plain awesome to be around. I noticed he took his OKC profile down recently. I'm not sure why, and I'm not sure if it'd be weird to ask him. I went to his place last night, too, and had way too much fun.

Hot Stuff's been super busy and super stressed at his job. He's in the middle of an 8 day stretch of working with no days off in between, and he's worried they're getting ready to fire him, so he's irritable and stressed out. We spent some time together on Friday, and I'm hoping to see him again before I leave on my Thanksgiving trip next week. He seems to relax when I see him, so I like to think I'm helping in some way.

The two guys from OKC last weekend were nice. I didn't really feel any attraction to the goofy-and-easy-to-chat-with guy, but the one who's in an open relationship has caught my eye. We've been keeping up a flirtatious exchange of text messages, which I've enjoyed. Flirting is fun! We're meeting tonight for drinks, so that should be fun.

That's all for now.
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Old 11-06-2016, 03:33 AM
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Hello old blog and folks and such! It's been a (really) long time (sorry.) I'm still me! I think. I'm some kind of me still, anyway. I was in massive flux when I was last here. I'll probably be a lot more boring now. I'm a little older and hopefully a little wiser (I at least don't conveniently "oops" with condoms anymore) and actually still (well, or again) poly, though not solo poly, which is the direction I thought I was leaning when I left off. I think I'm not really as bloggy as I used to be, and I've also been a little embarrassed about some of the poly newbie mistakes I made and blogged about here, but hey, live and learn, and also I need to expand my poly outlets a little. I'm also a leeeettle apprehensive about this being found by someone I know in person, as that seems potentially uncomfortably personal, but I think I can live with the risk. My own damn fault for being so enamored of this not-actually-that-clever handle that I used it on a few different places.

Anyway, after my last post, I explored things on my own for a while with a few different guys. Actually still am in some kind of (long distance, meaningful but not really partnered) relationship with the OKC open relationship guy I mentioned in that last post (I'll call him Gable) who'd "caught my eye," although he's no longer in that relationship, and has been going through some rough stuff in his life lately. Turns out Romeo wasn't exactly family, after all - he acted like an asshole to me a number of times after our breakup and it became apparent to me and a number of people in our social circle that he enjoyed pushing people's buttons to stir up conflicts, so I broke off contact and we have not been in touch in a long time. (That's a little embarrassing in light of all my wonderful ideas as a newbie poly person about how I could suddenly now just transition relationships instead of actually break up, but eh. That's life I guess.)

I started seeing another guy on OKC about a year later, and fell quite hard for him (I can't settle on a good nickname for him, but I'll go with Otto for now.) He thought he was OK with the poly thing at first, but then it turned out he really wasn't, and we re-evaluated and opted to be monogamous together. At the time the only other person I was still seeing was Gable, and he was completely understanding about it, and we kept in touch. Fast forward a couple of years, and Otto and I moved to a new city, and he realized he was OK with the poly thing after all, so we re-opened our relationship and also jumped headfirst into the local poly communities. That last sentence glosses over and skips a lot of mental adjusting from poly to monogamy and back, but that'll just have to do, at least for now.

We've been in this new city for a couple of years now, and have gone through some relationship adventures and misadventures. Some nice, lasting connections in there of the friendly and romantic varieties, and a couple of really nasty breakups. These days, thankfully, I'm not nearly as rapid-paced as I was in my earlier experimentation, haha. My newest relationship has been kinda simmering slowly for a number of months, and only more recently got bumped over solidly into the sexual side of things, and that's been nice. Otto dates a lot, but also has a couple of partners who've been significant for a while.

Anyway hi! I might be back on here or something.
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Hey, welcome back!

Sorry Romeo turned out to be a shit-stirring asshole. Unfortunately that happens.
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