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Old 11-29-2014, 12:49 AM
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My partner and I are considering posting an ad.
I read a fellow member mentioned the site, BeyondTwo.
Can anyone recommend a site and share their experiences?
Craigslist has its place, but we were looking for mature, serious individuals.

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Old 11-29-2014, 01:34 AM
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Have you tried searching these forums and looking at our Golden Nuggets section? Your question has been asked and answered in numerous threads here.
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Old 11-29-2014, 01:59 AM
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Thanks, Cindie.
There are not of gay men on the forum.
However, I will check out the Golden Nuggets section.
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Hi nt700,

The poly-friendly dating sites I know of are:
In addition you might try looking for a poly group in or near Austin. Sites to help you look:
We have a Dating & Friendships (North America) board that might be helpful as well. And there is http://grindr.com/ ... a geolocation app for phones; I hear it's geared toward gay men.

I have heard of some people having some luck with OKCupid, but not everyone does. Dating sites tend to have free accounts and paid accounts; obviously the paid accounts give you considerably more options.

Hope that helps ...
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Old 12-26-2014, 09:10 AM
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I used plenty of dating websites. Some of them free, some of them requires a small fee in order to use full functionality.

I can suggest to use these websites:
1. http://www.okcupid.com/ (You can use it for free)
2. http://kovla.com/ They have a good app for iOS. I'm using it at work and other places.

That's it. My best friend found boyfriend on second website. So have a good luck and don't afraid anything!)
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Old 12-26-2014, 12:19 PM
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My partner and I are considering posting an ad.
I read a fellow member mentioned the site, BeyondTwo.
Can anyone recommend a site and share their experiences?
Craigslist has its place, but we were looking for mature, serious individuals.
So you are a gay male couple looking for a third man to "share"? You want a mature serious individual who will love and lust for both of you equally and long term?

This is called unicorn hunting. To create a box for a new partner to fit into, and seek such a person. This hardly ever works, you know... just sayin.'

What works better for couples new to poly is to open up and let each one seek their own OSO. If you can't imagine that, you aren't ready for polyamory.

You two may have unexamined couple privilege and any new partners who agree to be "added as a third" to your established couple, will feel lesser than. What if he falls in love with only one of you after having had sex with both? Does he get dumped? What would be the repercussions of that, for each of you, for your couple, for the hypothetical unicorn?
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Old 12-26-2014, 01:32 PM
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Hi Madelyn. When I wrote share I was referring to sharing experiences. However, you raise good points. Given your points and advice, I am beginning to believe that the poly lifestyle is near to impossible.
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Old 12-26-2014, 01:41 PM
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Thank you Miss Marie. I appreciate the information and kind words. Happy holidays to you and yours. Kindest regards - Dave
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Old 12-27-2014, 01:43 AM
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Re (from nt700):
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"I am beginning to believe that the poly lifestyle is near to impossible."
Depends what you mean by "the poly lifestyle." Poly comes in a wide range of shapes and forms. Some are harder to do than others. Your best bet is to let each new poly relationship shape itself -- rather than impose a lot of expectations on it.
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Old 12-27-2014, 02:20 AM
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I thought magdlyn's comments were uncalled for. If she is a senior member who communicates to people in this manner than this is not the forum for me. Who does she think she is? Dr. Laura of the poly world.
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