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Old 08-25-2011, 10:57 PM
Jellyfish Jellyfish is offline
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Hi all,
My basic run down is I'm married with two children and a "boyfriend" on the side. It all started out with my husband, who is bi. He encouraged my relationship with our third party, although he gained no benefits from it. Now everything just seems to be a mess but I am unable to change the feelings I have with my bf. And we are all kind of at a standstill. :/ I'm. Mainly here looking for advice on my marriage and bf.
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Old 08-25-2011, 11:54 PM
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Hi and welcome!

First of all, I doubt very much that your hubs didn't benefit from your having a bf. Second of all, why do you have the idea that you were supposed to "change your feelings" about your bf? Your feelings are your feelings and perfectly valid. No one can tell you how to feel, that would be a dictatorship and doesn't keep feelings from happening anyway.

What exactly is the "mess" in your marriage you're referring to? Specificity helps in getting constructive responses.
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