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View Poll Results: Is masturbation sex?
I'm a woman and I vote yes 28 24.14%
I'm a woman and I vote no 28 24.14%
I'm a man and I voted yes 16 13.79%
I'm a man and I vote no 25 21.55%
I'm gender-variant and I vote yes 1 0.86%
I'm gender-variant and I vote no 1 0.86%
Magical brownies 17 14.66%
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Old 07-05-2010, 01:43 PM
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Default Is masturbation sex?

I've been taking an informal poll of this irl and would like your thoughts. Please post why you voted yes or no.

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Old 07-05-2010, 03:45 PM
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Default To quote one of my favorite attorneys....

I could easily argue for either position..

Yes, it is sex... physically, touching & pleasuring one's self. Without it, life is less pleasant.

No, it isn't sex.. without a partner, I lose the feedback and challenges and differences, and excitement. There's no communication, no relationship, no interaction.

I've heard discussions in Conservative Christian Women's groups about whether masturbation is cheating. (I'll assume that discussion won't happen here.)

I remember a "shocking" women's magazine article that "revealed" that married men pleasured themselves. (Redbook? Ladies Home Journal?)
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Old 07-05-2010, 05:21 PM
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no...not for me...its relief...like peeing.

Putting my finger in my mouth isn't giving myself oral...

It probably can be...but it isn't for me. Sex includes another body in my world
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Old 07-05-2010, 06:10 PM
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no...not for me...its relief...like peeing.

Putting my finger in my mouth isn't giving myself oral...

It probably can be...but it isn't for me. Sex includes another body in my world
I couldn't say it any better than that.
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Sexually stimulating oneself in my book is still sex, whether it is done for the pleasure or just for the release. The basic end result is still the same, orgasm.
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Sexually stimulating oneself in my book is still sex, whether it is done for the pleasure or just for the release. The basic end result is still the same, orgasm.
Does cumming relate to orgasm to you everytime?...(honest question, not being sarcastic)
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I answered magical brownies. The reason: I am waking up to a reality for myself where everything is sex. Everything. This is an insight that is deeply spiritual for me and may or may not last. It does not seem a particularly manageable way to live my life. haha.

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I answered magical brownies. The reason: I am waking up to a reality for myself where everything is sex. Everything. This is an insight that is deeply spiritual for me and may or may not last. It does not seem a particularly manageable way to live my life. haha.

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Heh.

I look forward to many more opinions/votes. I won't share the results of my irl poll yet, or my own opinion, as I don't want to influence anyone.
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Old 07-06-2010, 04:41 AM
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Does cumming relate to orgasm to you everytime?...(honest question, not being sarcastic)
Maybe it's my Vanillaness or a definition thing, but I was under the impression that cumming and orgasm were the same, just different names. Do please share your thoughts on the subject. I'm always interested in learning new things and broadening my horizons. (honest request, no sarcasm either)
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Old 07-06-2010, 05:10 AM
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I voted no because of my own personal experiences. I am not meaning to get deep or creepy here. I was abused as a kid and so if masterbation is sex then I had sex since I was around two or three. So I voted no because thats just wrong. I would never say that I had sex that early willingly. As for now... sex on first thought doesnt go into my thoughts as done alone. Although when you say masterbation it seems to me most people go to being alone. This is just my own thoughts about what i've learned from others and myself So sex needs intimacy with another person in my book
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