A double standard for men and women?

[NeonKaos]

Originally Posted by redpepper

Bluegecko, It sounds like you are triggered. If this is so then there is usually some personal story behind it. If you are wanting support for your own situation then how about telling us what it is?

Because trolls don't think things through like that, they just say what they need to say in order to get folks riled up.

[Prax]

I'm not going to comment on the specific instance, but I've noticed that ignoring female-on-male abuse is definitely a common thing in the dominant culture. It seems to spring from sexist ideas about strength and power: since men are always "strong" and women are always "weak," a woman hitting a man is a joke (because she can't do any real damage) while a man hitting a woman is a crime (because she doesn't stand a chance against him). The same applies to emotional abuse. This makes it harder for men to find support and be taken seriously when they suffer abuse from a female partner.

[AutumnalTone]

First, not everything in a post is going to draw a response, for better or worse. Drawing any conclusion from the lack of response to any given point is unsupportable.

Next, if it appeared in a blog post, it's unlikely anybody is going to take issue with it there. That's a function of the blogs being protected.

Third, as the poster herself noted that the behavior was bad, there's really no need for other people to point that out to her.

With the latter firmly in mind, I have to wonder what you're playing at--trolling, perhaps?

[NeonKaos]

Since abuse is not a topic that is specific to poly relationships, this thread is being moved to the Fireplace.