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Old 08-22-2011, 02:54 AM
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Default How much do women take to polyamory

I understand that while many wives may deliberate or even abhor the very idea of a poly-amorous lifestyle in the beginning. But once into this lifestyle do they really like it or do it just to please their partners.

I was seeing a video where they said that once introduced it's the women who keep it going. Is this true?

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Old 08-22-2011, 03:30 AM
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I don't know where you're getting your ideas. I've read that it's more often the woman who suggests poly in a relationship. I've got to find those articles again and post the links!

Anyway, there's already a few discussions on this. It helps to do a search before posting. See:

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Old 08-22-2011, 06:32 AM
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Situations vary, but I would think that anyone that "does it for their partner" is just waiting around for the end... I would think there would eventually be a big "fail" hanging from the situation and a whole lot of mess to clean up.
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Old 08-22-2011, 02:01 PM
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Originally Posted by alexi View Post
Is this true?
When speaking of various forms of non-monogamy...it ain't poly if you're just fucking around.

While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.
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Old 09-08-2011, 12:32 PM
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We talked about it for months beforehand, we came to it together and in agreement, no one did it for the other. This was after 10 years together, and a year later we are both sucsessfully poly and stronger than ever together.

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Old 09-09-2011, 01:46 PM
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All women don't feel one way or the other! Your mileage may vary, depending on which woman in particular.
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