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I was hanging out with my partner and one of our best friends the other day and the subject of work vs play came up in our conversation. At some point I said that it's a damn shame we don't have an English word (to my knowledge) that means both work and play, because the rigid segregation of these concepts into wildly separate domains seems to create all sorts of problems for us. ("Us" being people in our culture, whatever the hell that means.)
Of course, this being the polyamory forum, I'm thinking particularly about how we "work on our relationships" and "work on ourselves" in relation to ... well, relationships. Work implies a kind of heaviness, seriousness..., an occasion for discipline and yoking ... and sort of lording it over ourselves to be sure that we don't be to lax and comfortable and lighthearted. But some of the best "inner work" and "relationship work" is also done in an atmosphere of lighthearted playfulness, even joy and ease. Too serious and heavy an attitude can insure that good work doesn't get done. Right? I'm hoping someone here will know a word from some language, somewhere, ... French? Japanese, Swahili?" ... that means both work and play. If there is no such word we can borrow into English, perhaps we poly folk should invent one. We're going to be needing it.
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Plork.
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LOL! ... Perfect!
Hi-ho, hi-ho, it's off to plork we go....
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rob brezsny speaks about Pronoia (the anthidote to paranoia), maybe it's a plork' relative, but it's wildly and playfully serious!
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All so true!
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The Montessori teaching philosophy refers to what kids do as "work," to acknowledge the developmental function of children's play. I've always thought of it as backwards. I'd rather call my work play.
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From The Prophet by Kahlil Gibran, my favorite perspective on work:
Work
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The English lanauage certainly sucks with descriptive words. We also only have one word for love, when there are many different kinds of love. The greek language has 100+ words for love. Go figure.
In response to your question, I try and phrase relationship "work" around the words "growth" and "understanding"
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Love Gibran quote, one of my favourites!
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When I was a pre-teen figuring out how the Commodore and it's Basic language worked was play. Today learning other new skills of the same sort is "work". (AKA play I get paid for)
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