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Old 10-06-2011, 11:24 PM
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Lol, we all have our own weird things. I am just hoping that this one goes better than last time.
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Old 10-08-2011, 07:56 PM
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Well, last night went fairly well. We all get along and will see where it goes from here. It felt strange at times but this is pretty new me.
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Old 10-10-2011, 03:13 AM
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I had a chat session with T and let him know that I want to move slowly. I do tend to think ahead of myself and want to do things quickly but I realized that I need to know him better first. M is the only man that I have had sex with in 8 years and adding someone new feels strange. I am sure that part of it is mono programming rearing it's head. I am also still grieving for Bear and that effects things as well.

When I spoke with M's mom prior to B's testing, she seemed to want to believe that she was just an above average child who had been worked with too much and was, therefore, ahead and would level off instead of an advanced child that will not level off with the proper educational environment and support for her strengths and weaknesses. When M let her know that she is indeed an advanced child and will not level off, she replied with, "Yep, we knew that she was smart,". I find that interesting. She doesn't want her to be advanced because she knows that will mean that she is going to continue in an unconventional schooling method regardless of where we live and will most likely finish HS well ahead of
her age mates.

It's not like we are going to push her out into the workforce early or even off to college before age 16 at the earliest as far as going off out of our home to college. I have decided that, since this state has a program where the school pays for
dual enrollment college courses for advanced students, we won't push them about her official grade level as she can get
her early HS credits done and when she gets up to age level senior in HS status, she will have the potential to have
achieved an associates to bachelor's degree at the same time without us paying more than our taxes for it.

What is important is that she is challenged and happy and continues to well academically and socially and is a good, well rounded person. That will also give her time to decide what she really wants to be and study when she goes off to school.

Q is doing much better with his talking but still not great with his potty training. I did tell him that, if he wants to start karate in January and preschool next August, he needs to potty on the potty. He said okay but I am not holding my breath.

M and I have had a few rough moments the past few days but I think we are all just worn out. Also, our oven is broken so we have to buy a new one as it will cost us the same to get a new one as it would to get a repair person out and to order parts for a 30+ year old stove.

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Old 10-20-2011, 01:43 AM
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We will be meeting up with T and K on Nov 4th just to hang out and play a game. We want to cement a friendship before moving on to other things. B is doing better with her schooling for the most part. We are behind where we could have been due to losing Bear but we are slowly getting back into a good rhythm.

M and I are doing well and, if things would quit breaking, we would be doing well money wise too. We are hoping that things settle down soon. We just had to replace our phones and our range. We are hoping to be able to have a good Christmas this year for the kids.

Q is having good and bad days potty training wise. I am starting to think that he will go to college in adult diapers at this point, lol. Not really but it feels that way sometimes.

N has a new potential boyfriend and they have their first date tomorrow while we are out with M's dad and step- mom for dinner.
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Old 10-25-2011, 02:02 AM
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Things are going okay for us, B is doing better with her school stuff and I am still communicating regularly with T. N's potential seems to be going well but I am going to reserve final judgement for now.

M is stressed but that will hopefully change soon.
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Old 11-01-2011, 08:09 PM
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Well, today is my 30th birthday and my truck finally passed the e-check. They stopped testing for what I usually fail on though, lol. We get together with T and K on Friday. We are just going to hang out and play a board game and get to know each other better. My period is late so I bought a test today and I will take it in the morning.

I am positive that is all that it will take for it to come. Unless Mike's estim has caused his vasectomy to fail, there should be no more babies. I did the math and we would have conceived around his birthday if I am pregnant, though. We shall see in the morning.
I tend to be paranoid in his area.

The kids are both sick and I was over the weekend but I feel much better now. N and I are going out with our friend tonight for dinner. M is jealous because he likes restaurant that we are going to but we can't take the kids there sick.

I will check back in tomorrow...
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Old 11-15-2011, 03:23 AM
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Well, it has been crazy lately but I am here to update. First, let me just correct a grammatical error from my last post. They're* not there, lol. Well, the meet up with T and K went well last time. It has been a couple of months now and a couple of meetups as a big group to get to know each other better.

Friday, T and I will be meeting up alone to see if we are compatible or just get along as friends. M and K are both comfortable with us meeting alone and, if we decide that sex isn't for us together, we all still want to hang out as friends with the same mindset as we all get along well.
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Old 12-04-2011, 03:14 AM
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Well things have been crazy lately. T and I have had to reschedule twice now, we haven't yet set a time to try again. The first time we were to meet, I was sick, the 2nd time he was sick.

B has been assessed up to 2nd grade math and la. She will move up to 1st grade History, Science and Art in January. For next year, she will do 3rd grade la and math and possibly 4th for math and 2nd and 3rd grade History, Science and Art and 1st grade Social Studies and Music.

She is loving school and thriving with all of her social activities. She has even found an age and intellectual friend in dance class. They get along beautifully and they understand each other.

Q is making huge strides in his language skills and colors and shapes and counting and saying his alphabet. We will begin working on letter and letter sound recognition as well as number recognition soon.

M is doing well and his new job has eased our financial issues. We are getting along fairly well most of the time.

N is single again and will start looking for a job again soon. She is doing a lot of work with Q during the school day and it's wonderful for him.

I'll try to update more often.
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Old 07-13-2012, 06:20 PM
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Hello everyone, it has been a long time since I posted. It has been a very busy 7 months. Not much has been going on poly wise until recently. M has found a potential partner for some of his fetishes and for the bi side of his nature. I have found a potential straight partner. We will be meeting tomorrow to see if we have any chemistry.

M has decided that he doesn't want to be involved at the beginning anymore. He realized that he puts out a jealous husband vibe subconsciously and it makes me very uncomfortable so I am unable to relax and get to know the new person without feeling guilty if I am not paying them equal attention. We still want to try a threesome at some point and M2 is open to that and understanding that our marriage comes first in this.

He is only 25 and does want to have kids someday and so we are both aware that it may be a short term relationship unless whoever he meets to have children with is open to a poly relationship. He says that he is not ready to fully settle down for years so we'll see how it goes. N is now attending dental assistant school and has a potential new love interest M3.

The kids are doing well for the most part. B needs a consult for some cavities that may or may not need to be crowned. She didn't tell us that her teeth hurt and she stopped brushing those 2 teeth. They are the same tooth on both sides. She is doing well with her school work and has progressed to a high school working reading level and an 8th grade leisure reading level.

Q is being tested for a metabolic disorder. His blood panels came back inconclusive but with several markers elevated so he will be having an Organic Acids test done in the next week or so and we'll get the results on August 21st at his follow up Endocrine appt for his growth. He has fallen way off of his height curve in the past year.
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Old 07-19-2012, 07:48 PM
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Well, the meeting with M2 was delayed until today because he was called in to work an emergency on Saturday. I will be leaving in a couple of hours to meet him. We are going to talk and see if we have any in person chemistry or not. We will go from there on if we want to pursue anything further.
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