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Old 07-11-2011, 08:57 PM
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My point is you don't ever have to get there or feel that you should. It sounds like, though he's not being pushy, that's what your husband wants more than you do. There is no need for you to push yourself, either, to get past your own wants and desires in order to do this "right." As a couple you don't have to have threesomes, you don't have to be into the same things, and you don't have to try anything that goes against what makes you comfortable just to please your partner.
Yes, it is something that he desires. But it is also something I desire to discover about myself. I don't know if I would like it or not. I've never taken part in a threesome, so I don't really have an opinion about whether I like it or not. So, I am pushing myself to discover my likes and don't likes. I believe that that is a very healthy thing to do. Otherwise, you just sit stagnant and could be missing out on a lot of fun. So, while yes it is his desire, it is more my desire to discover things about myself. Only then, can I say I know where I stand on an issue or know what I enjoy.
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Old 07-20-2011, 04:19 AM
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openbj, you said you were a virgin when you married your h. How old are you now, if I may ask, how old is he, and has he had several partners and group sex before?

I can see why if you've only had one partner your whole life, you're eager to try sex with a partner of either gender, even if it's in a 3way with your h. I've been friends with a Christian woman who married as a virgin who used to tell me she always thought she had missed out (finally in her 50s she had a 5 year affair, but is still happily married).
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Old 07-20-2011, 04:25 AM
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I'm 30 and he's 31. We've been married for 12 1/2 years. He was not a virgin when we got married. His high school years were filled with the life of multiple partners and dates. Even being married, he has still had other partners and relationships. But me, he's the only one ever. I made out with my share of boyfriends in school, but I never did anything further than that, wouldn't even let them touch me.
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