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Old 07-01-2011, 03:03 PM
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The cougar thing had be expecting at least a 20 year gap too. Although I guess to some people 10 years is a big difference, especially that way.
Anyways, is he going to stay your client for a long time? And his mom? My main concern would be that he'd be awkward around you if he says no, and you around his mom is he says yes.

I think if you tell him, do it when he has the option to leave right away, so he doesn't feel trapped, but can also stay to talk more about it if he wants to. What does your husband think? As he always had partners who knew he was poly from the start too?
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Old 07-01-2011, 11:02 PM
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Anyways, is he going to stay your client for a long time? And his mom? My main concern would be that he'd be awkward around you if he says no, and you around his mom is he says yes.

I think if you tell him, do it when he has the option to leave right away, so he doesn't feel trapped, but can also stay to talk more about it if he wants to. What does your husband think? As he always had partners who knew he was poly from the start too?
My client relationships are very long term. Lifetime actually so it is a bit of an issue on that front, but not a real biggie.

I am not really worried about him saying no. He is sending ALL SORTS OF SIGNALS to let me know he is interested. Plus the more hints I keep dropping, the more he is warming up, just haven't come right out and said, "I want to fuck your brains out and hubby is good with it."

Yes, 27 is old for virgin, but he would be the last person in the world to initiate anything. Perfect gentleman to the core, but unless I'm a completely clueless idiot (and the few other people that have been observing his behaviour around me) he is ready to be broken. Maybe just wishful thinking on my part, but I don't really think so.

I will tell him at the end of our driving lesson on Sunday just before he goes home so he has time to think about it before our next date.

As for my previous relationships and my hubby's relationships everyone has gone in knowing the status. This is the first time we have ever considered crossing from normal to "fun".

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Old 07-02-2011, 12:31 AM
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what kind of work do you do where your clients are lifetime clients?
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Old 07-02-2011, 02:13 AM
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Cougar and MILF age is 35. This is the official decree. And when you hit around 50, you go from MILF/cougar to mature or granny.
Official? I think of Cougars as 50 and up. When the deplorable term first started being used, it was all about the beautiful rich older women (picture Morgan Fairchild) going after guys in their 20s and 30s. Now, a cougar can be 35? That's ridiculous! I couldn't understand why Courtney Cox is doing that show Cougar Town, 'cause I think she's too young to be a cougar.
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Old 07-02-2011, 11:29 AM
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Yeah if you look at cougar porn, it's mostly all women in the mid 30s to mid 40s. I was being tongue in cheek about an "official" decree. I did think of myself as a cougar when I first started on okc at age 53 and started getting hit on by all these young men in their 20s. None of those guys ever called me a cougar, they just said they'd always had a fantasy about being with an older woman.

I watched Cougar Town once, and saw Cox's bf looked to be only about 10 years younger than her, 30ish to her 40ish, and I thought, pffft, she isn't really a cougar after all!
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