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Old 11-05-2009, 03:49 AM
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They even have television commericals for the site in NY....
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Old 11-05-2009, 04:14 AM
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They've been running TV ads nationwide for a couple of months now.

And while it may be tempting to write off the clients as scumbags dregs, pigs and whatnot, I think you'd find that a great deal of the people who use it are just regular people who are just making bad choices. And a great deal of those choices are increasingly being informed by a mass media that encourages them, much in the same way the media encourages women to hate their bodies and kids to measure their worth by the clothes and the video games they own.

Generally I reserve my indignation for the machines that perpetuate that stuff, rather than the people caught up in it. Not that I excuse lying or cheating, but my indignation would have little to do with the consequences they would face from their actions.
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Old 11-05-2009, 03:40 PM
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my indignation is for the people that perpetuate the machine. Sometimes those are the ones that are a part of it.... it all comes around unfortunately. All I can do is be an example of an alternative (which is to think for myself) and teach my child to think for himself.

Are you serious! there are ads!??
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Old 11-05-2009, 03:50 PM
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Here's an example of an ad. A lot of their ads are actually targeting women too, which I find to be inherently disempowering. Basically it's selling that the woman is trapped and the only way she'll be able to meet her needs is by cheating (rather than standing on her own and communicating, etc.). But it also highlights that many people who cheat are not necessarily trying to be poly without taking responsibility for it. Many people cheat because they are monogamous with the wrong person. It's just a shame that this ad suggests that leaving a bad relationship isn't an alternative.


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Old 11-05-2009, 07:59 PM
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Many people cheat because they are monogamous with the wrong person.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EJ7IuSG5Ra8
Totally agree!
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Old 11-06-2009, 04:56 PM
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I read this story too. I wonder if this guy ever questions himself. Hmmm.

What I really wanted to comment on was that wonderful comparison list. I am in the place of wanting to grow into a love that has been long-standing (if unrealized) with an old "friend" while maintaining the love I have for my husband. I didn't want to have "an affair" for particularly the reason that I want both to be long-term (all the while knowing that there is no knowing the future). I am also in the ironic position of loving two guys who have both been cheated on in the past (probably an important reason why I prefer to try to do this openly). The odd thing is I know I could sneak around - but I wouldn't want to because these loves mean too much to me.
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Old 11-06-2009, 05:03 PM
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I read this story too. I wonder if this guy ever questions himself. Hmmm.

What I really wanted to comment on was that wonderful comparison list. .
This just makes me feel good....thanks for that
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Old 11-06-2009, 05:31 PM
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The sad thing is people would probably be even more outraged by a poly dating sight because it is commonly seen that people having affairs are at least trying to be faithful.
Now - isn't that backwards logic?!
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Old 11-06-2009, 05:45 PM
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Now - isn't that backwards logic?!
It is..but I have told my parents about having an affair and having a poly relationship. Their response spoke volumes of the inability to understand poly but their acceptance that people have affairs.
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i had similar issue with my parents, my mum has had an affair in the past, and now married to the man she had an affair with,
i am constantly callanged by her on my poly lifestyle, that i choose to be open about with her through respect,
but when i spoke to her about cheating years ago she was very understanding and accepting of it, it kind of infuriates me because i want her to see what i see that this is a far better way to conduct myself than lying and cheating but i dont' think she ever really will understand.

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