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Old 05-29-2011, 11:04 PM
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Alan, I will check out your reviews when I have time in the next few days. So, thank you. Meanwhile, off the top of your head (or anyone else's who has read these and cares to respond) do any of those books you listed, besides Opening Up (which I have), devote much to single, solo poly people? Most of the books about poly that I've found and perused at Barnes & Noble seem to focus on couples who decide to open their marriage. I do find the title Gaia and the New Politics of Love rather intriguing and will check out that review first, methinks.
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Old 05-29-2011, 11:51 PM
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> devote much to single, solo poly people?

I's say that would probably be *The Ethical Slut*.


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Old 06-26-2011, 02:55 PM
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Default Lots more reading to do... Whew!!

Just want to say thank you for the book recomendations and the conversation. After leaving my long-term marriage in 2007 I've been glancing at Poly as a possibility. Being a Pagan Esoteric Spiritualist, Sociologist, and a healer I am very interested in continuing my studies on "Sacred Sexuality," with the inclusion of what Polyamory has to offer. These books (and links) will add much to my efforts... Thank you and Blessed Be.
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Old 07-10-2011, 01:17 AM
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I don't know much about this book, i just started reading but it seems pretty kind hearted so far.
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Old 09-14-2011, 10:49 PM
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I'm reading a new book: The Art and Etiquette of Polyamory: a Hands-on Guide to Open Sexual Relationships by Francoise Simpere. The English language version is a 2011 copyright and I think it's original date in France is 2007.

So far, so good. But I can definitely see the French cultural influence. I'll be back when I'm done to let you know what I think. I'd like to know what others think about it, too.

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Old 11-05-2011, 01:29 AM
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Default My favorite poly book

My absolute favorite poly book has to be "What Does Polyamory Look Like?" by Mim Chapman (first referenced in Alan7388's top-10 list in this thread).

This book was instrumental in helping me recognize and broaden my understanding of various different types of poly relationships, from pair-based relationships to inwardly-focused groups, chains (V,N,W,...,S), etc. It's not an "apologetics"-style of book, i.e. it's not trying to justify or rationalize polyamory. Rather, it's focused on giving a practical advise to people that are already poly but trying to understand what types of relationships suit them best.

For me, it was the right book at the right time. It also helped me and my wife to draft our very first "poly agreement", and to do a MUCH BETTER job at it than we would have otherwise! While many of the concepts may be obvious to those that have been poly for many years, I highly recommend it to anyone that considers themselves relatively new to polyamory (like me).
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Old 11-19-2011, 07:12 AM
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As a result, humans became the most sexual animal on the planet.
I think Bonobos have got us beat.
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Old 12-29-2011, 09:37 AM
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Default Book Recommendations


Does anyone have any good recommendations for other books to read along the same lines as Dannys.

Ive already read all that the likes of Dave Gorman and Tony Hawks have to offer and loved them all along with all of Dannys book.

I read one call one red paperclip which is a decent read although not as good as some of the above in my own personal view.

Any recommendations would be most appreciated, cant wait for Dannys new book next year


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Old 12-30-2011, 01:26 AM
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Default What kind of Websites would you recommend and why?

As an attempt to direct our viewers and readers to come here to find information I am hoping that people will fill this sticky with not only their favourite books but their favourite websites also. That way we can direct people here for a wide range of information on what is out there for them to find support, info and different perspectives on poly.

Please tell us what your favourite sites are and why? thanks!
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If the Buddha Dated
This is a book I've found helpful, read several times over the last 7 years, and shared with with a lot of people I've cared about. It is not actively about poly at all (and indeed, does seem to be geared towards finding "the one", but I've found it good for dealing with dating "the ones"), but is at least not slanted towards heterosexual relationships. It has helped remind me of the importance of being authentic and true to myself when forming new relationships.

I suppose I'll say a bit about why I think this is a useful book. For me, I think this is great for those of us who have occasions of worry or insecurity (those ones stemming from "no-good-reason") within a relationship, and I often open to anywhere randomly and find some perspective that calms me right down.

Luckily I haven't had much of this other stuff in my life, but it seems to have lots of helpful reflections I'd take for people who have trouble finding healthy relationships or are finding themselves unsure if a partner is a good fit or not. It's got good advice on how to figure out where to draw personal boundaries for yourself, if you find you have conflicted feelings about defining them with partners/etc.
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