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Old 01-18-2013, 09:21 PM
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I get crazy messages every day, albeit my profile is pretty crazy...

(These are all the first messages that were sent)

Jan 17, 2013 6:04pm
"isn't it sad that they put someone as interesting and far away as you in my matches... I'm sorry to say we will never meet, but I know that if we did we would fall in love with each other if only..."


Jan 16, 2013 10:42am
"I can do magic tricks"
7% Enemy 51% Friend 69%match


Jan 15, 2013 6:53am
"Hi How r u....I wish to talk more about our relationship"


Jan 7, 2013 8:34am
beautiful i want to text you nudes ; ) 716-545-**** xoxoxo from Aaron!
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Old 01-19-2013, 03:51 AM
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I could see myself joining OKC just to return messages with all the errors corrected. That would actually be entertaining.
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Old 01-21-2013, 04:44 AM
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*Recent Update* I am desperately in love and very taken. Every breath taken without being beside her is a breath wasted.

I'm off the market in the biggest way ever.
So.... you're messaging me... why?
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Old 01-21-2013, 02:26 PM
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Weird, Cat!
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Old 01-21-2013, 03:27 PM
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"Hi, I like ur profile, wanna chat? Would u step barefoot on a cake?"

Whoa! That comes across as someone with a serious foot fetish with a very specific proclivity.
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Old 01-22-2013, 06:25 AM
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"Hi, I like ur profile, wanna chat? Would u step barefoot on a cake?"

Whoa! That comes across as someone with a serious foot fetish with a very specific proclivity.
Whoa is right! but this gives me the opportunity to ask a question. I mean, stepping barefoot on a cake seems like a very easy thing to do for someone. What turns me off is that is included with 'hello.'

Are there quiet people with ...shall we say, odd tastes, who find people, fall in love for all the traditional reasons, and then ask for stuff like stepping on a cake? Or do they open with cake, and then bemoan the fact that it's difficult to find someone compatible?

I have done far more difficult things, and things that most might find distateful, for someone I love. Things that did not much for much, but were requests by lovers that I was willing to accommodate (or try). So for me, cake doesn't sound all that awful. But it does come across completely squicky with a greeting.
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Old 01-22-2013, 12:48 PM
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I agree. Apart from being a waste of perfectly good cake (although maybe the guy is into eating it afterwards), it doesn't seem like a big deal. But it's really not a first contact kind of question. Because, really, even something completely vanilla and not weird at all (such as "do you like being on top?") is not a first contact kind of question.

Maybe this guy has decided he absolutely cannot be with someone who isn't willing to step on cake, and he doesn't want to spend time investing in someone who might not. But it seems hard to imagine that someone would refuse such a harmless request.... once a relationship already exists.
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Old 01-24-2013, 05:34 AM
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You're all assuming this is a stepping-on-cake fetish. I'm not saying you're wrong... but maybe he's just a joker, and this is his way to weed out people with no sense of humour.

Maybe he's a foodie, and wouldn't even consider dating someone who would abuse cake in such a manor, even for love.

Maybe he really hates cake and wants to find someone who shares his passion for destroying cake in the funnest way possible.

Now I want to see what it feels like to step barefoot on cake...
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Old 01-24-2013, 01:16 PM
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Nice looking feet.
He doesn't mention cake, though.
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Old 01-24-2013, 02:24 PM
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You're all assuming this is a stepping-on-cake fetish. I'm not saying you're wrong... but maybe he's just a joker, and this is his way to weed out people with no sense of humour.

Maybe he's a foodie, and wouldn't even consider dating someone who would abuse cake in such a manor, even for love.

Maybe he really hates cake and wants to find someone who shares his passion for destroying cake in the funnest way possible.

Now I want to see what it feels like to step barefoot on cake...
Oh, he's talking cake. I couldn't resist drawing him out a bit more. Part two of his fetish is that he really, really desires that after stepping in cake that you wipe your feet off on his white carpet.

I was out to dinner with friends and I mentioned this. My best friend was like, "YES!" She'd love to walk in cake and squish it and then wipe her feet on his carpet.

I don't think this would be something I'd have a hard time doing and I think it may be fun; my worry would be that this would be such a consuming desire that it would eclipse everything else. I'd be like, "Cake, cake and more cake. Enough already!"
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