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Old 04-10-2012, 01:14 AM
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Both of those images are far more flattering than how women are portrayed who have multiple partners.

I'd rather be called a pimp than a whore.
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Old 04-10-2012, 01:50 AM
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So then I should stop wearing spandex bike shorts and a feather boa on group dates then?
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Old 04-10-2012, 09:28 AM
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Do boas really arouse anyone?
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Old 04-10-2012, 10:11 AM
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Constrictors are kinda sexy, yeah.

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Old 04-10-2012, 11:53 AM
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Constrictors are kinda sexy, yeah.

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I have a 6 foot Brazilian Rainbow Boa...and she is all kinds of sexy!
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Do boas really arouse anyone?
Well, they do work well with corsets and fishnets.
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Do boas really arouse anyone?
They seem to when I do certain burleque numbers at the shows I do. They can be really hot when worn properly and used to entice. Most people just fling the cheap chicken ones around their neck and don't know the potential they have. A really thick boa of anything other than scratchy chicken feathers is luxurious and sensual. Totally arousing!
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Old 04-10-2012, 06:37 PM
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Most "mainstream" and monogamous people I've spoken with think of free-love hippies, with a touch of egotistical intellectualism--as in "We're smarter/more thoughtful/more communicative/more enlightened than you, so you could never be one of us."

I have met some poly people who are like that, and I often see some judgment cast on monogamous folk, as if they don't question their own choices, or have been oppressed somehow.

Just my impression.
So, when I read this I thought about it for a moment. I wouldn't say more enlightened but wouldn't you say we are more free-thinking and understanding? I had a conversation with someone yesterday and they said they believed getting a lap dance at a strip club was cheating. That's maybe a little extreme but my point is we have all kinds of tolerance here. We have polygamy, polyamory, polyandry, swinging (which isn't poly but another whole thing all together) and so many more definitions. We can understand all of these even if we don't agree with them. I find most of my monogamous friends are accepting but not at all understanding. They ask me questions and stare at me blankly when I explain. Then they ask the question a different way. "aren't you jealous? No. Well it doesn't bother you when she's having sex with someone else? No. What if she leaves you for him? Won't happen, but if it did its not because of the sex" etc.

To many monogamists it's cheating. To us it's life. We aren't any better, we are just different. And the issue isn't our lifestyle. There are too many camps for us to ever unify. No, the problem is our honesty. People are liars. They don't like that we accept this because they can't. Think about it. Far more people cheat than practice polygamy. It's just how we are. We are deceitful.
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They seem to when I do certain burleque numbers at the shows I do. They can be really hot when worn properly and used to entice. Most people just fling the cheap chicken ones around their neck and don't know the potential they have. A really thick boa of anything other than scratchy chicken feathers is luxurious and sensual. Totally arousing!
Valiant boa defenders, unite! I don't know what my issues with boas are, but I really have this odd dislike of them. I love burlesque, but I loathe boas. I may have to look into higher end boas and see if this is unfounded. I love burlesque, fishnets, corsets, and stuff like that.

And, Ivy, I take tremendous offense to that notion, as a proud, insensitive dumbass.

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Old 04-10-2012, 11:11 PM
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I think that a lot of the problem with people's views of the poly community come from the fact that poly folks are "not like us". Even if you put the relationship stuff aside (which some can't), the poly community tends to have significant numbers of kink folks, SCAers, and pagans as well as the more "hippie" type.

Now I'm saying that any of those are wrong in my eyes, but they all serve to increase the feeling amongst mainstream mono folks that polys "aren't like us".
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