The "How Are You Doing" Thread (redux)

[SNeacail]

Originally Posted by RunicWolf

I swear BrigidsDaughter and Wendigo extrude an entropic field around them that makes things much messier then they should be. Maybe it's just conflicting work styles that's driving me up the wall. I'm neat and organized, they are..not. It's the one remaining bit of tension between the three of us. They go down there, work, and tear the place up and I always end up having to clean the disaster up before I can do any work. I've tried talking to them, it does no good. No relationship is perfect though, right?

LOL! This is why I now have my own work bench and am slowly acquiring my own tools. Husband and I DEFINITELY have different work styles and he is way messier than I am and I'm not exactly neat (even though I like things neat and organized), more lazy. Maybe there's a compromise you three can work out. With myself, it helps to have pictures posted of how things are "supposed" to look, kind of a reminder to put things away.

Great news about the new job.

[opalescent]

Looking forward to seeing Whip tomorrow 😃

[BrigidsDaughter]

Originally Posted by SNeacail

LOL! This is why I now have my own work bench and am slowly acquiring my own tools. Husband and I DEFINITELY have different work styles and he is way messier than I am and I'm not exactly neat (even though I like things neat and organized), more lazy. Maybe there's a compromise you three can work out. With myself, it helps to have pictures posted of how things are "supposed" to look, kind of a reminder to put things away.

Great news about the new job.

We discussed this in the car today. It's not that we don't try and we do clean up, but that doesn't help when they are both working down in the shop at the same time b/c Wendigo and I cannot work in a clean, sterile environment. We know where everything we are working with is in the chaos and as soon as something is put away, we can't find it. Where as, Runic Wolf needs everything in it's place to function. We're making a conscious effort to give him what he needs, but it isn't always enough.

[nouryia]

I've been battling this nasty chest cold/cough for over a week now, the kind that makes you almost wish you were dead. The mates had it earlier, even the kids went through it and survived.

But I have asthma and it's doing a real number on my lungs. I hate having to sleep in the recliner because any attempt at laying down causes me to have coughing fits so bad I want to be sick. I'm SO tired...I just want to sleep like a normal person. I can never take the ability to breathe for granted...because I know just how awful it feels when your lungs are drowning in mucus. Arrrggghhh!

As for the positive, all my relationships seem to be doing well at the moment, feeling blessed and very lucky

[nycindie]

I am so stressed financially, it's just crazy. Have to do my surfing at Starbuck's or wherever I can get free wi-fi, 'cause my cable's been suspended - and that means no tv, home phone, or internet til I make a payment. Cell phone's been disconnected, too. And I have til Wed. to pay my gas & electric or I will lose service. I owe them all 2 or three months worth, plus I am behind on my rent so will probably have to go to court this week.

My freelance clients all pay net 30, net 45, and some even net 90, and I will have money... eventually. It just so happens that I'm in a period without cash flow that I could not meet all my payment arrangements when they came due, and I couldn't get any more extensions. It seems that telling my providers I'll be able to pay them someday isn't concrete enough, LOL. Plus, no student loan til September, which is what I've mostly been living on. It sucks. I need a job, because my freelance work isn't enough to support me, and I've applied to a gazillion positions, but get very few responses. I have never walked around for this long with absolutely no money to my name. I don't really have any family to rely on. My divorce is still in limbo, so no settlement yet, plus I owe my lawyer a ton of money too, so every time I send an email or call, all I can think of is the time she will bill me for.

So, I'm trying to sell stuff on craigslist and eBay that will bring in a good chunk, like my furniture, but I can't count on that. I keep getting messages from scammers. I try not to get too depressed, but it ain't easy. Lively has been wonderfully supportive emotionally. He's just such a sweetie.

I know things will work out, but this week, I keep noticing homeless women about my age, and for the first time in my life I am terrified that it could be a reality for me. I grew up in poverty and overcame so much to leave home and make it on my own in NYC at age 23, so it's hard to believe I'm in this position. <heavy sigh>

[nouryia]

Getting over this horrible plague (chest cold turned bronchitis) I had...and already missing my adorable metalhead boyfriend who's away out of town for a few days with his mates...I'm hopeless

[Magdlyn]

Cindie I feel so bad for you to be so broke!

My gf has not been able to find work for ages, mostly because her disability makes it impossible for her to work on the computer, the job she is trained for. She could deal when she was younger, but now that shes 34 the pain is quite bad. (She is trying to get SSI disability $, but is experiencing horrible sexual discrimination because of her transgender status, sigh...)

Anyway. She is considering escort work. She's done it in the past. There is no sex involved. Just dinner or lunch out with an older gentleman, whom she screens carefully. They just want to be seen with an attractive woman (you qualify!), and have a conversation.

miss pixi says she used to get $250 for having a free meal out, $450 if they wanted you to have a couple drinks with the meal... But again, its just a meal and conversation with a lonely guy, no touching at all.

Anyway, I know it can be shocking to think about being that desperate. Just thought I'd throw it out there.

[SNeacail]

Spent last evening with my sewing group talking poly. Add alcoholic strawberries, alcoholic beverages and other delectable deserts (of the sugar based variety) that elicit uncontrollable moans, it was a good night.

[Pretzels]

Originally Posted by SNeacail

Spent last evening with my sewing group talking poly. Add alcoholic strawberries, alcoholic beverages and other delectable deserts (of the sugar based variety) that elicit uncontrollable moans, it was a good night.

Jealous. Really jealous. I think it may be time for me to seek out an IRL poly group with whom to chat around the NYC area.

I somehow managed to eek by for about a year with not saying anything about our triad in front of my mono coworkers. Then I go and hire a very nice, very chipper woman to help with my work load and she just loves to talk with me about her girlfriend. I'm straight but not narrow but incredibly jealous that she feels comfortable enough around me to tell me these things and I still feel like I can't trust anyone with talking about my situation.

*sigh*

/rant

[SNeacail]

Originally Posted by Pretzels

Jealous. Really jealous. I think it may be time for me to seek out an IRL poly group with whom to chat around the NYC area.

The funny thing is, I wasn't looking for a "poly group". I joined a re-enactment group, and there's a small sub-group that meets each week to sew, knit, weave, bs and drink. I found almost an instant bond with these people. It just turns out that a couple people in the group are currently actively poly and a few more who have been in poly relationships in the past.