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Old 03-09-2012, 05:00 PM
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Doing okay today. I didn't get alot of sleep after I got home from taking Wendigo home the other night and as late as I slept today, I still feel drained. All I know is I better be more awake when I get home from work tonight because Runic Wolf's girlfriend and I are supposed to be sewing tonight.
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Old 03-09-2012, 05:07 PM
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I mean, did she really have to INTRUDE? She has every other night to cuddle and watch tv in bed with him...this was MY night
I was thinking about this post yesterday. I wasn`t quite sure how to respond.

I am not sure I agree with 'putting her in her place' so to speak. It is her house, and his house, right ? This is her home. Is it possible to meet for your cuddle nights somewhere more neutral, where it is equal turf ?
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Old 03-09-2012, 11:28 PM
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I was thinking about this post yesterday. I wasn`t quite sure how to respond.

I am not sure I agree with 'putting her in her place' so to speak. It is her house, and his house, right ? This is her home. Is it possible to meet for your cuddle nights somewhere more neutral, where it is equal turf ?
Equal turf...we don't have. Cuddling at my house is more awkward, I have older kids that stay up a lot later and might question why I need to hole myself up in the bedroom to watch tv with him.

His kids are in bed by the time I get there. We mostly hang at his place because his other mates work later shifts (some weekends too) so he's on kid duty for dinner and bedtime 4-5 nights a week and has to be in the house until they get home from work around 9:30 or so. I'm just trying to accommodate him by going over there...not take over her house.
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Old 03-09-2012, 11:35 PM
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Also more on topic...feeling really heavy-hearted today. I have been having a lot of problems relating to my daughter lately...14 years old is such an awkward age...It seems the more I try, the more I fail.

She says I don't care about her and have no idea what she's going through so I try harder to check in with her and chat about her life, let her know I care...only to be pushed away/told off/yelled at at every turn.

I miss how simple things used to be...
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Old 03-10-2012, 12:11 AM
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She says I don't care about her and have no idea what she's going through so I try harder to check in with her and chat about her life, let her know I care...only to be pushed away/told off/yelled at at every turn.
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Old 03-10-2012, 01:10 AM
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Nouriya,

She'll think you're the bomb when she's thirty. But not now. 14 is such a miserable year for kids and parents.
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Old 03-10-2012, 02:13 AM
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The Twilight Zone indeed...lol Let's hope she still talks to me when she's 30.
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Equal turf...we don't have. Cuddling at my house is more awkward, I have older kids that stay up a lot later and might question why I need to hole myself up in the bedroom to watch tv with him.

His kids are in bed by the time I get there. We mostly hang at his place because his other mates work later shifts (some weekends too) so he's on kid duty for dinner and bedtime 4-5 nights a week and has to be in the house until they get home from work around 9:30 or so. I'm just trying to accommodate him by going over there...not take over her house.
Make-do situation, I get it. Beware of a turf-war for sure.
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Old 03-12-2012, 04:11 PM
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Had a very good, productive weekend. However, I am wishing I could be of more help to those around me, that aren`t doing so well.
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Old 03-13-2012, 06:29 PM
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Doing okay. Not great but not horrible. Just wish I could let go of those things that cannot be and learn to be at peace with how things are. I've been driving myself crazy over silly stuff I cannot control and I know it. ~sighs~
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