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Old 12-25-2013, 11:04 AM
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Feeling pretty darn good!

My immediate boss gave me some Christmas gifts yesterday - a personal one from her, and an "official" holiday gift from the owner of the business. From the owner, I received a $500 bonus! I didn't even know she gave bonuses at this time of year, since I was still new at Christmastime last year (so did not get one), and it is not a very common practice at all in this type of job. I was told that business has not been as good as they had hoped (I already knew that profits were down from last year), and some employees did not get bonuses this time around, but they wanted to show me their appreciation. Along with that, I received an invitation to select anything I want from what we sell, and she wrote some very nice things in the card that accompanied it.

I feel quite valued and acknowledged by what the owner wrote in my card. I sent her a "Thank you" text after I left work and she texted me back with "You deserve it!" Gosh! The owner and the manager (my boss) have both been reassuring me that I'm doing a great job in my current position as an assistant manager.

I was promoted back in October and had a rocky start getting comfortable managing my co-workers (still not totally there yet). A few times I had burst into tears (while at work, ugh!) from the stress of trying to juggle the many obligations I now have, and I had a few tense conversations with both of my superiors. But they decided to take back some of my responsibilities until I am more comfortable and proficient with other tasks, rather than see me drown under it all - and that helped. There are a lot of details to manage and they both tend to be very particular that things are done to the letter, but some of the procedural stuff does not align with my own brand of logic, so there is a learning curve for me. After the new year, they will give me back those responsibilities they took away, so I go in with the attitude that it is my own business and my baby to care for.

I have just been trying to do the best I can. I also worked a few extra days and been doing tasks for them in my off-work hours because they needed help. I know they genuinely appreciate my willingness to go an extra mile. Yesterday was my 10th day in a row without a day off, and some of those days I could only take a short break to wolf something down for lunch and then run back to work. I don't mind doing that, because... well, it needed to be done and if I didn't, some things would've turned out a mess. After having been unemployed for a long time, and getting by with freelance work which I enjoyed but that didn't always add up to enough to pay my bills, it feels really good to have finally found a job I actually like, where I am not only paid a decent wage but also feel appreciated in a very real and human way.

Anyway, the Christmas presents my immediate boss gave me were very thoughtful -- a very nice journal and a gift certificate to a store that I've always wanted to shop. She threw in a few fun novelty gifts that humorously acknowledge how I've struggled a bit as a manager - candies in colorful wrappers with funny sayings and images from the 50s and 60s. One has a picture of a secretary and it says, "I need more money and power - and less shit from you people." Hahahaha!

Afterward, I took myself out to dinner in a casual but sort of swanky cafe, had a few drinks, and came home. Fell asleep with a contented, full belly, and woke up early this morning feeling grateful. Merry Christmas indeed!

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Old 01-01-2014, 08:34 PM
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I'm cautiously optimistic.

To be honest, I've felt a bit lonely the last few weeks, with the holidays and being 5000 miles away from my family. My job, being seasonal, is winding down too, so i also have to find another one.

But i got a wad of cash in an envelope for an xmas bonus, and hopefully made my first poly friend. So it's swings and roundabouts really.
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Old 01-05-2014, 08:02 PM
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Life is great..my wife gave birth to my beautiful baby boy. 6 and a half pounds 22inchs and healthy and strong..

This new addition to our extended family is amazing, we are just waiting on his maternal twin to pop out in two months
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Old 01-05-2014, 08:02 PM
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Life is great..my wife gave birth to my beautiful baby boy. 6 and a half pounds 22inchs and healthy and strong..

This new addition to our extended family is amazing, we are just waiting on his maternal twin to pop out in two months
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Old 01-06-2014, 05:49 AM
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I'm feeling really satisfied and stable. Dude has been seeing Lotus for 3-4 months now and, while there have been some bumps, it has gone much smoother than I could have hoped.

She was down for the weekend and we had a "Girls Day" like we have been talking about for a while. We went and had our nails done (MrS thinks painted toe-nails are sexy!). Shopped a little (she wants to teach me to walk in heels and I had a used furniture store that I wanted to show her) and then a leisurely early dinner. Came home to happy boys and Dude and I waxed her ... and then she and I waxed his back!
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Old 01-14-2014, 11:24 PM
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feeling empty and broken, but still trying my best to heal.
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Old 01-14-2014, 11:42 PM
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School started again. I took advantage of the inclemental weather during winter break and worked as ton of OT. i haven't been dating but my friend D from school is now in a relationship with J. I know she's been wanting more involvement from a partner than she gets with N. Hopefully she and D workout I know how hard meeting a single guy who is down with poly is.
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Old 01-21-2014, 01:47 AM
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Last month I had to go for LEEP - MrS went with me.

Tuesday I had to go for a diagnostic mammo/usn for a lump that Dude found in my right breast. Lotus went with me.

The beauty of poly...any of the three would have accompanied me to either procedure. They ALL offered.

Both results were fine. The fact that I had three people willing to go through the process with me...priceless.

I feel soooo loved, sooooo cared for.

I know that if either procedure had required follow-up treatment I would have had the support of all three. (And all three would have supported each other in their concern for me....)

I feel so cherished...and know that my SOs have the support that they would need should something have required their concern.
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Old 01-21-2014, 01:53 AM
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Last month I had to go for LEEP - MrS went with me.

Tuesday I had to go for a diagnostic mammo/usn for a lump that Dude found in my right breast. Lotus went with me.

The beauty of poly...any of the three would have accompanied me to either procedure. They ALL offered.

Both results were fine. The fact that I had three people willing to go through the process with me...priceless.

I feel soooo loved, sooooo cared for.

I know that if either procedure had required follow-up treatment I would have had the support of all three. (And all three would have supported each other in their concern for me....)

I feel so cherished...and know that my SOs have the support that they would need should something have required their concern.
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Dude: hetero poly male, live-in boyfriend (together 3+ yrs) and MrS's best friend
Lotus: poly bi female, "it's complicated" relationships with Dude/JaneQ/MrS
TT: poly bi male, married to Lotus, FB with JaneQ
VV and MsJ: bi-women with male primaries, LTR LDR FWBs to JaneQ


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Old 01-21-2014, 10:46 AM
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I had my OKC account disabled for quite a long time - not sure but it was at least six months, probably longer. Turned it back on, noticed the site's changes, and poked around a bit. For someone who lives in a big city, it seems like pretty slim pickins' here. I get a lot of results when I do a search, but wind up Hiding most of them without even visiting their profiles. I just want not to see them pop up in searches anymore - I hate to admit it but there are a lot of ugly people in NYC. Either that, or their pictures turn me off for other reasons. I especially love the guys who are definitely in their 70s claiming to be in their 50s, as if we can't tell. Ugh. Then I search for poly and variations on that word, non-monogamy, etc. and get maybe two or three people. A few searches, with minor changes to distance and "last logged in," came up with no one! Not a one.

Then the Inbox starts lighting up. Jeeee-zus! What losers with their lame, "hi how r u 2nite?" "nice smile" and "What's up sweetheart?" That is the full contents of three messages I received from guys who were like 20% to 30% matches. Have all the intelligent men fled the site? And what's with all the guys who look like gangsters?

So, I realize, turning my profile back on means I now have the equivalent of a second job, if I want anything to come out of it. Lots of work to do... so I start digging, reading, checking out their answers to questions I deem important, and so on. I wrote to three guys I thought seem interesting, smart, and witty. Oh, and good-looking, too. Two did not answer.

But one did. He actually is smart, funny, and interesting, and a 99% match. Oh, and good-looking, too. Sent me a link to a delightfully entertaining YouTube video that had me laughing and smiling for a good long time after watching it. And he's curious about stuff in my profile - which means, folks, that... ta-da, he read it - yay! Milestone! Very promising. I guess we'll see... so far, I likey.

So, I'm feeling a wee bit hopeful - but it's rough out there, people. Really rough. I'd forgotten! Maybe I need a strategy. Suggestions welcome!
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