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Old 10-31-2013, 04:21 AM
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Life finally came to a head. I had to schedule out a couple of jobs. I cancelled a consulting gig, finally, and had to cancel a seminar in dallas next week. Couldn't put together enough time and still have a life.

2 weeks or so I head to pittsburgh and then its some down time. Getting ready for my newborn.. looking forward to some relaxing time at home...

ironically.. I know I will be bored in no time flat.. but I will deal with that when the time comes. haha..

Man this year has flown by.. craziest year ever
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Old 11-02-2013, 05:52 AM
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Tired, really tired.

My life is still in the middle of what appears to be a very long transition period but things are on the upswing. I finally have some funds and have sent out near a dozen emails about room rentals, I have a long term plan and hopefully, I will be able to get some temporary holiday/seasonal work which will increase my funds. And I found a school that might be perfect for my masters!

I was hoping to do something fun tomorrow but in reality, I think I'm going to catch up on sleep and schoolwork.
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Old 11-02-2013, 06:20 PM
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I am also Really tired. But later I have to do some Advanced Professional Dress-up (trying on and putting together outfits for work so when I get up at the crack of dawn, I don't have to think). Other than that: movies? and exploring this place more.
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Old 11-02-2013, 08:31 PM
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I am doing really well. I am returning home tomorrow. I have not physically seen my children since 24th October, and I have missed them. I managed to get a lot accomplished and took some time off to process what had happened, so this time was not wasted. I will be home Monday, and I am in luck because Monday and Tuesday are public holidays due to the spring racing season. I plan on spending both days with my DH and children getting in some much needed family time. I will be ready for work on Wednesday.
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Old 11-03-2013, 05:24 AM
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Post I read a thread today

And how I was doing after reading could be described as sorrowful to the point of tears, regretful and ashamed. The topic and situation did not resemble ours, other than that love thing. But what it did manage to do was to put myself in my wife's shoes and not focus on myself (for a change).

As I've mentioned, I have tried to be supportive of my wife's relationship, despite my unenlightened perspective towards a poly ls. But reading it illustrated the ways in which I've clung to my insecurities, and nipped and dragged at her, not allowing her to fully enjoy the amazing feelings that have blossomed in her heart. When I told her, she dismissed it saying I've great been all along, but that's just her sweet and caring nature.

But I could have been so much better.

For the evening, we had a family outing planned to see Ender's Game, a book my 15 year old sons have read and wanted to see. She had mentioned this to K during their time spent together that afternoon, and he expressed interest in seeing it, he's a big sci fi fan, also having read it. Initially I was not crazy about him being included in our dedicated family time, but rather than object, I suggested she mention it to the boys and gauge their reaction. "We like K, sure we should bring him".

There he was, waiting at the cinema doors for us, and a loving lovely warm hug from Dahlia he received. I felt instantly better knowing we'd chosen to include him with our family.

And the movie was pretty good too.
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Old 11-03-2013, 06:46 PM
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I am downed today. Bad mental health day. As I am doing a lot of the time, I am recovering to go to work. Blah. Oh well, part of the cyclical nature of mental health management and poly management has taught me that you have to accept many things as they are and try to make the best of them. A hot shower will be great. I'm watching a fun show about aquariums with my son. My husband is bringing home some late lunch. And I'm getting some long distance emotional support from my not-my-girlfriend. Not a wasted day even if I am trapped on the couch.
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Old 11-06-2013, 02:27 AM
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Thought I was over being afraid... apparently I'm not.
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Old 11-15-2013, 06:15 AM
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I'm feeling, I don't know, teary, hormonal, shorted, like I have very little control or input into nearly every area of my life right now.
I have sent out emails for apartments, job applications, dealt with various insurance problems, and various school issues and I have made absolutely no progress in any of these areas. None
On top of that, last weekend's plans went totally wrong and this weekends plans got cancelled. I also need more together time then is happening in my current relationship. Time/face to face, and affection are crucial love languages for me and I am having trouble feeling like I even have a right to ask for what I need.
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Old 11-15-2013, 02:32 PM
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Getting packed for my trip to pittsburgh. Going to miss the family, and this will be a long one at almost 3 weeks. probably the last trip before the birth...
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Old 11-16-2013, 04:38 AM
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Mom's chemo seems to have shrunk the tumor down to where it isn't detectable to the touch (YAY!), and her surgery is going to be scheduled in a couple weeks. Preparing for an early Thanksgiving dinner tomorrow (slash birthday party) and it smells damned good in here already. I want to start eating early.

And the Sam Adams Cherry Chocolate Bock? Omnomnomnomnom...
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