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Old 08-04-2013, 03:28 PM
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Sad and worried - woke up to find one of my metamours is suddenly in the hospital and on her way to surgery. Our shared partner has had more people he loves in the hospital facing scary things in the 6 months I've known him than I have in my entire life and I've been overwhelmed trying to figure out how to offer support through this period, and wishing I knew how to do it better. I'm trying to focus on positive thoughts, she's a really lovely person and I know she will be OK.

edit: she wasn't OK... If anybody has any book or website suggestions about how to support friends and partners through grief, I'd appreciate a PM.
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Old 08-05-2013, 06:47 AM
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Career:New job going well.
Health: nothing major but a longterm set back (probably a few more months before I can ride a bike or go hiking) is annoying the hell out of me.
Relationships: Wife has new energy with new boy friend. GF has roommate issues.
Hobby: In a couple weeks I'll be doing a real comedy set (as opposed to open mics/showcases) for the first time in a few months. Been involved in the art form since '97 but unable to take it seriously. I work in psyche and when you spend your days getting laughs from people you never would have met had they hadn't tried to kill themselves the night before the idea of being judged by bar flies just doesn't mean as much. Still though, it's had its fun moments over the years.

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Old 08-05-2013, 07:13 AM
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Anne-I sent you a pm. Hugs. I suspect I know who. Terrible blow, sudden and shocking.
I will try to get book info for you asap. Please let me know if there is ANYTHING else I can do to help.
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Old 08-05-2013, 07:16 AM
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I am reeling from the news that one of the internet friends who has most supported me on my journey through hell to where i am today, passed away this morning. It's such a shock.
The selfish part of me is whimpering over never being able to hear her reassuance and supportive, bright eyed positive encouragement.
The frie d part of me is sitting on my butt in shock wondering how the fuck do you show support for people who have lost their mommy, their love, their daughter, their friend-from SO MANY DAMN MILES AWAY!
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Old 08-05-2013, 07:28 AM
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The frie d part of me is sitting on my butt in shock wondering how the fuck do you show support for people who have lost their mommy, their love, their daughter, their friend-from SO MANY DAMN MILES AWAY!
Right there with you LR, wondering very much the same thing.
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Old 08-05-2013, 07:51 AM
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Wish I could hop a plane and come take care of everyone. Know it doesnt work
That way. But damn.
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Old 08-06-2013, 01:11 AM
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The frie d part of me is sitting on my butt in shock wondering how the fuck do you show support for people who have lost their mommy, their love, their daughter, their friend-from SO MANY DAMN MILES AWAY!
You send them random texts. You post on their facebook walls. You let them know you love them. Exactly as you did with me.

My condolences to the family.
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Old 08-06-2013, 01:14 AM
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Thank god people only die once.
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Old 08-06-2013, 04:21 AM
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Mbg-I know. But I do appreciate your support, friendship and reminders. It sucks doing this over ans over.
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Old 08-06-2013, 10:46 AM
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My condolences, Anne, LR, and everyone who is suffering this loss...
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