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Old 10-27-2009, 06:30 AM
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I was wondering about the rest of the letters in your name Mono. Not sure why I didn't ask. Secret, eh? Hmm...
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Old 10-27-2009, 07:00 AM
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I was wondering about the rest of the letters in your name Mono. Not sure why I didn't ask. Secret, eh? Hmm...
Vanilla- as in sexually unexploratory and non BDSM or kink
Cracker - merely a referance to plain white, un interesting
Poly - as in Poly
Hag - as in hang around to poly people
Guru - a joke on "knowing a lot and having answers"

there you have it!
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Old 10-27-2009, 07:13 AM
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HAHA! I love it. You seem to use the terms vanilla and mono almost like you're disappointed in yourself or something along those lines. Heck, you even display a vanilla cracker below your posts.

Vanilla is a very good flavor too. I'm allergic to it and much prefer chocolate, personally, but hey, vanilla's great too!
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Old 10-27-2009, 07:17 AM
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he likes to pretend he is, but he isn't. I think it's tongue in cheek by now as he has experienced more in the last year than some do in a life time... maybe over a year ago he could call himself vanilla. I'm using vanilla in a non-BDSM way here.
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Old 10-27-2009, 07:21 AM
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Lol!
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Old 10-27-2009, 02:25 PM
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maybe over a year ago he could call himself vanilla. .
A lot sure has happened hasn't it....but I'm still vanilla! Same old crackers Baby...hope you like em
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Old 10-27-2009, 07:50 PM
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Which is why his post count is almost twice that of any of the poly's on the board...he's doing it all himself, where as the poly's have 2, 3, 4+ people to help them out.

Ok...going away to remove tongue from cheek now.
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That was awesome imaginary!!
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Old 10-27-2009, 07:51 PM
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Some secrets are better left unsaid I wouldn't want to embarass you
ARE YOU KIDDING ME?????

Come on!

We feel like we know you all so well!!!
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Old 10-27-2009, 08:19 PM
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ARE YOU KIDDING ME?????

Come on!

We feel like we know you all so well!!!

My lips are sealed!
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Old 10-28-2009, 11:59 PM
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I often wonder about this too... I spend alot of time thinking about what is important to me in relationships and what is not so important. For example, when thinking about mono or poly relationships: There are challenges and benefits to both, some of which you cannot experience in both relationship paradigms. There are some poly articles that just piss me off because the generalize about what "poly people" think about relationships. The truth is that alot of these things (lack of possessiveness, handle on jealousy, good communication, etc. is present in good monogamous relationships too.) Being monogamous is almost like a "gift" to yourself and your partner, especially if you are not mono-wired. It means that you value something special in this relationship enough to "forsake" all others.

It seems, in thought anyways, that monogamy isn't a deal breaker for me, either way. I can be in monogamous relationships or not... What matters for me is real love, commitment, etc. I think that some people may use monogamy as a way to "prove" that they love someone... This is what I did anyhow. But then again - I wonder if focusing on non-monogamy is just as shallow... or a response from fear. see this:

What do you think of this quote about open relationships? (not me)
"I think they donít really believe in love, and I think they force themselves to deal with the thought of the person they love having sex with other people because they think thatís the only way to really hold onto their love.

I think what motivates people is often fear of loss or getting hurt, so they dumb down their relationships in order to protect themselves against pain. "

I question my motives at times... why monogamous? Why poly? Am I reacting to some fear of loss, etc? I think that people can run in either direction as a reaction to fear... how many of you honestly think you might do this?
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