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Old 10-25-2009, 09:50 PM
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Sometimes fear of vulnerability can come from not having done due diligence on step 1 (finding partners you can trust). In some cases like that your gut may be telling you 'if I allow myself to be vulnerable to this person they will use that to hurt me' and your gut will be right.

But, if you have found partners worthy of trust, and then you don't trust them, then you a) wasted all that time finding trustworthy people for no especially good purpose.. and b) slow your growth and that of your relationship and leave a lot of unrealized potential there on the table.

Unwillingness to be vulnerable severely restricts the level of communication you can have, and your love will most likely suffer (or at the very least it will be less than what it could otherwise be).

Rome wasn't built in a day. Or so I've been told (I wasn't there). Make mindful attempts to move beyond your comfort zone if you feel you have trustworthy loves.
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Old 10-25-2009, 10:09 PM
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i know why i fear being vulnarable, it is deep rooted in my past, 2 of the men i am currently seeing most def deserve my trust, the other who i am not seeing yet has hurt me in the past and will have to earn the trust back before he comes back into my life,
we are doing a lot of talking at the moment and i won't move things to next level until the trust is back

with the 2 that i am currently in a relationship with
i want to trust them 100 percent but i know that i hold back a little,
its not a lot, its like a tiny little bit of me is holding back, but i am still aware of that and actually i think i am ready to be vulnarable with them,

its very difficult though,
to just let go, becuase even when i want too i think subconciously i may still hold back,
so its a case of where to start

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