I wouldn't normally weigh in on a personal blog but...
I had a child with my first husband. He was/is an alcoholic and a narcissist. When we split there were many aspects of who he is and how he behaved I would have loved to never deal with and eliminate from my son's life. Where his safety was concerned, I did restrict time.
But this asshat was my son's biological parent. I could not go back and undo that. I could not undo that my son loved his dad. When he was living a life that was not conducive to caring for a child, I didn't allow visitations; it just wasn't safe.
But I didnt block phone conversations! Its his kid too. He no longer had legal rights to visitations but that changed nothing in that my son wanted to talk to his dad. And I had enough faith in my own ability to guide and parent my son to not act like his dad's words through the phone had some immense mind control ability. This guy you're talking about can't even influence his own actions but he is somehow a super powered villain through the phone? I don't see it. I see you wanting him to change, which I totally get, but you want it to the point of using this kid to punish its dad for not being who you want.
I had a child with my first husband. He was/is an alcoholic and a narcissist. When we split there were many aspects of who he is and how he behaved I would have loved to never deal with and eliminate from my son's life. Where his safety was concerned, I did restrict time.
But this asshat was my son's biological parent. I could not go back and undo that. I could not undo that my son loved his dad. When he was living a life that was not conducive to caring for a child, I didn't allow visitations; it just wasn't safe.
But I didnt block phone conversations! Its his kid too. He no longer had legal rights to visitations but that changed nothing in that my son wanted to talk to his dad. And I had enough faith in my own ability to guide and parent my son to not act like his dad's words through the phone had some immense mind control ability. This guy you're talking about can't even influence his own actions but he is somehow a super powered villain through the phone? I don't see it. I see you wanting him to change, which I totally get, but you want it to the point of using this kid to punish its dad for not being who you want.