TL4everu2
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Like I said, I never really dated. I had one other girlfriend other than my wife. I was pretty lame as a kid. LOL
Yeah...Ummm...This weekend is over now, and I have made the final decision to let them go. They are not willing to be adults. S is unwilling to even look into poly because he thinks that I want his wife as my second wife. He thinks it's the same as polygamy.
D and L spoke a lot, apparently. Then, while I sat up in the room getting drunker and drunker, all three of them sat down by the pool talking about our relationship. D and I had developed a different kind of bond....but....S was pissed because of it. Apparently, it's ok for ?HIM to develop those kinds of bonds with other women, but not for D to develop that kind of bond with another guy. Oh well....It stings and hurts.......But we (L and I) have decided not to continue the relationship on in a sexual nature. We are now officially taking another "break". However, this time, due to some other info that we have found, lies that we caught them in, and other things, we (L & I) have decided that we will remain "friends", but drop the "with bennifits" part and will never sleep with them again.
What I thought was going to be a "great" weekend, turned out to be the worst weekend. I was pretty much miserable the whole time, with a few exceptions when my wife and I spent some quality fleeting alone time together.
What did I learn from this weekend?
1) Don't trust anyone. (except maybe your spouse)
2) Never go out with someone else without your own ride.
3) I'm not much for drinking.
4) Not sure if I ever want to look around for anyone else again or even remain open to the idea anymore.
5) Keep the walls up. Build them high and thick so no-one can break through them or get around or even over them. Make my heart like a fortress and only ever give the key to my wife.
6) People will lie to protect themselves for mental pains.
7) People will hurt you un-intentionally as well as intentionally.
8) The only way to win, is not to play.
These things are what I learned from this weekend.
I will still be working with S. and I will still be good friends with D. I will miss the joking and kidding with her as well as the sexual good times we had....But I simply can't continue to hurt my wife, her, or S anymore. So I just quit the game.
I'm still gonna be on here posting and lurking and trying to help. But in my personal life...I doubt much will happen as far as poly is concerned.
Yeah...Ummm...This weekend is over now, and I have made the final decision to let them go. They are not willing to be adults. S is unwilling to even look into poly because he thinks that I want his wife as my second wife. He thinks it's the same as polygamy.
D and L spoke a lot, apparently. Then, while I sat up in the room getting drunker and drunker, all three of them sat down by the pool talking about our relationship. D and I had developed a different kind of bond....but....S was pissed because of it. Apparently, it's ok for ?HIM to develop those kinds of bonds with other women, but not for D to develop that kind of bond with another guy. Oh well....It stings and hurts.......But we (L and I) have decided not to continue the relationship on in a sexual nature. We are now officially taking another "break". However, this time, due to some other info that we have found, lies that we caught them in, and other things, we (L & I) have decided that we will remain "friends", but drop the "with bennifits" part and will never sleep with them again.
What I thought was going to be a "great" weekend, turned out to be the worst weekend. I was pretty much miserable the whole time, with a few exceptions when my wife and I spent some quality fleeting alone time together.
What did I learn from this weekend?
1) Don't trust anyone. (except maybe your spouse)
2) Never go out with someone else without your own ride.
3) I'm not much for drinking.
4) Not sure if I ever want to look around for anyone else again or even remain open to the idea anymore.
5) Keep the walls up. Build them high and thick so no-one can break through them or get around or even over them. Make my heart like a fortress and only ever give the key to my wife.
6) People will lie to protect themselves for mental pains.
7) People will hurt you un-intentionally as well as intentionally.
8) The only way to win, is not to play.
These things are what I learned from this weekend.
I will still be working with S. and I will still be good friends with D. I will miss the joking and kidding with her as well as the sexual good times we had....But I simply can't continue to hurt my wife, her, or S anymore. So I just quit the game.
I'm still gonna be on here posting and lurking and trying to help. But in my personal life...I doubt much will happen as far as poly is concerned.