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Old 08-31-2011, 12:52 PM
CountryLiving CountryLiving is offline
Join Date: Aug 2011
Location: Bulgaria
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Default Have we missed anything?

My husband and I have discussed this subject until we are blue in the face.
Finally we have taken the decision to do something about it.
We have tried to think how someone might feel joining us. As 16 years together it might be off putting? In all the time of being together, we have always enjoyed our own things. Away from each other, able to spend time doing things without having to have the other person there. Now as time goes on we think it would be wonderful to embrace another person in our relationship. For them to have their own interests which would be encouraged and interesting, but also to join either of us or both in our interests.
Whilst I am bi-sexual I am not bothered if another female who might join us has no interest in a sexual relationship with me.
We think it is important for the lady to have her own space, her own room, and bathroom, this to be shared within the relationship with what right now is my partner, a shared pattern of activity. Her time, my time, our time. Time when only she goes away with our male partner, times when I do, times when I go away and leave them to manage our area and life. Times maybe when she chooses to do the same.
Oh so many more things have come to mind. Are we taking into account the needs of a third person in our life? In our heads we are basically putting our life rules into action for a third person, is this correct.
Please can you tell us if we are thinking wrong, or giving too much thought to it - etc.
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