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Old 05-21-2017, 07:34 AM
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I am a 34 year old guy who's been through a few largely unsuccessful relationships, never married. Currently in a LDR with anamikanon.

Many here already know how I massively fucked up last year with NRE (a term I'm only now beginning to understand), and am avowedly monogamous since.

None of my past relationships were poly in any sense.
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Old 05-21-2017, 08:41 AM
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Hey spexy.

Welcome to the forums. I'm pretty new here myself. Don't beat yourself too much with the NRE thing. I think everyone's guilty of that at one time or another.

If you've since found any useful resources on NRE, please share them for me in this thread I recently created.

Thanks, and a warm welcome,
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Old 05-21-2017, 09:11 AM
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I am a 34 year old guy who's been through a few largely unsuccessful relationships, never married. Currently in a LDR with anamikanon.

Many here already know how I massively fucked up last year with NRE (a term I'm only now beginning to understand), and am avowedly monogamous since.

None of my past relationships were poly in any sense.
Love you. <3
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Old 05-21-2017, 12:06 PM
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My mobile phone's auto-correct in the post above spelt sexy instead of spexy. I found myself quickly correcting it before it started a jealousy war.
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Old 05-21-2017, 12:28 PM
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Hi Shaya,

Thanks for the warm welcome note. I'll be sure to share what I learn about NRE.
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Old 05-21-2017, 12:30 PM
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My mobile phone's auto-correct in the post above spelt sexy instead of spexy. I found myself quickly correcting it before it started a jealousy war.
ROFL. Frankly your post was the first time ever I saw someone else call him Spexy and I was .... ok, I didn't see this coming when I nicknamed him for here

I think if you'd called him sexy, it would have been easier

Jealousy is a non-issue for both of us so far. Luckily.
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Old 05-21-2017, 12:30 PM
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My mobile phone's auto-correct in the post above spelt sexy instead of spexy. I found myself quickly correcting it before it started a jealousy war.
Ha ha ha ha ha. Oosp
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Old 05-21-2017, 01:43 PM
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Hello and welcome! It's always interesting to meet the partners of regular posters.

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Many here already know how I massively fucked up last year with NRE...
Well, you are in good company - a lot of people fuck up under the influence of a flood of brain chemicals, I certainly did. (My story is recorded in the Jackassery section of my Journey blog here.). On the other hand, recovering from our mistakes and receiving forgiveness and rebuilding trust often teaches us valuable lessons for avoiding such upheaval in future endeavors.

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Old 05-21-2017, 07:36 PM
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Hello, and welcome
I was reading on when anamikanon first posted, and I thought you two did pretty well reconciling after the issue.
If you have any specific questions, feel free to start a thread
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Old 05-24-2017, 05:42 AM
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Hello and welcome! It's always interesting to meet the partners of regular posters.



Well, you are in good company - a lot of people fuck up under the influence of a flood of brain chemicals, I certainly did. (My story is recorded in the Jackassery section of my Journey blog here.). On the other hand, recovering from our mistakes and receiving forgiveness and rebuilding trust often teaches us valuable lessons for avoiding such upheaval in future endeavors.

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Thank you Jane - both for the welcome and for sharing your life experiences. Having seen way less life myself, it is helpful to see how relationships, and particularly poly, can be handled.
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