Some of those things are fluid. And have to be. So while it may be poly positive (pp) it may not exist all the time. During times of pain, injury or illness things become obstuse. Pengrah can sometimes have a problem seeing my pain, through her pain. For example. This happens in mono relationships to.
I think a poly positive relationship is where all the moving parts are involved and working to each others betterment. Some things, as self aware as I try to be, I am blind to. Is that ignorant of me, sure, so I hope Pengrah can help me. Bonus of being opposites in so many ways is that we see life through different glasses (literally too
) SJ also helps me as she and I are very similar, but she see things through a different gender. Its amazingly rewarding to have that detail expanded with help.
To take that to its extreme, it can become poly negative when it becomes dependent. If one pillar is angled, narrow or breaking down while the other hold strong. One thing I saw this weekend was the need for all parts to be ready to help and be involved. Either backing away and giving room or coming in and offering a different perspective.
That for me, is poly positive.
True dependency would create a poly negative space.
I can think of other things that could be poly negative but will leave it open and see what comes from this