Sometimes people need piercing motivations to actually practice polyamory. Brother Husband (in the MFM V I'm in) is, shall we say, enamored of the idea of polyamory, yet he's not much of a communicator, nor one to work very hard at relationships. If Hinge Lady hadn't been spurring him on all this time, he probably would have lost interest by now and moved on to something else. He tends to be a bit impulsive and changes his stipes (or his flair as he'd probably like to say) every few weeks.
Good communication is hard work, there's just no getting around it, as good communication entails constantly trying to improve the quality of one's communication. I get the feeling the partner you're feeling frustrated with is put off by the idea of such intense communication, as well as the work involved in coordinating schedules. But schedule coordination and quality communication are musts if one is to make a poly relationship fly. It's easy to say, "Wow, polyamory, that sounds pretty neat, let me try," but not so easy to say, "Okay, let's get down to business." For some people, polyamory is just a flair item. For others, it's a labor of love.
We had a new fellow join us today on the intro board, who does a lot of sailing. His wife was very interested and thought that sounded like a romantic life, but when she found out sailing isn't just romantic, it's also a lot of work, she no longer wanted to be a part of it. They have since divorced. Just interesting to see two examples lately of how something that sounds really romantic and cool when looking in from the outside, can turn into something daunting for many people once they try it on. Unfortunate but there it is. You'll probably have to set your sails to the wind, and let this other person go.
Of course I hope I'm wrong ...
Sincerely,
Kevin T.