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Old 09-26-2014, 04:20 PM
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Off to visit Susan. It will be really nice even if we are winding down. I'm still looking forward to this and going on vacation in November.

I met someone that seems pretty cool on OKC. She's into a lot of stuff I'm into including stuff that I like to DO rather just read about. Tour breweries, watch sports, etc. We already have a first date, though not a day to do it yet.

Stakes has been a little flakey lately and isn't sure why. We have always talked about our relationships, but hearing about mine is causing emotional issues for her. Not jealously exactly... more like sadness.

Anyway, I'm off to the airport.
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Old 09-30-2014, 01:51 AM
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The weekend went pretty good. I got more perspective into where Susan is emotionally. She's absolutely beaten down and stressed from work. It's affecting her entire life, and not helping matters is her cat has severe digestive issues. She's having to spend the first 30 minutes she's home after a 12 hour day cleaning up after him. Awful.

So when I met her Friday even she was almost in tears she was so stressed out and worried about the weekend. She admitted she thought about cancelling when I asked her. I helped her clean up the cat mess, and then she collapsed with me on the couch and she fell asleep for about an hour. It was sweet. I loved holding her like that. She felt a little better when she woke up. We had a little snack, then fooled around (since she was feeling better) and then made it an early night.

After a good night's sleep, Saturday was much better. She had to work a few hours, but I got to spend it watching football and drinking beer. Don't throw me in that briar patch!
The evening was really nice. On Sunday I helped with more cat mess and put air in her car tires.

We are still on for November, and I asked her to come out in December which she thought was a good idea, but it was too early to commit. I had presented it in that manner anyway, because December is always crazy busy on the weekends. She felt much better and was really happy I came. I really enjoyed the weekend. I love her so much.

But I still have the same problem. I would like to relate to her about dating, so I'm going to explore that. Also, she's going to have limited energy to devote to me just like Kay. So I have to take care of myself and can't be needy on them.
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Old 10-02-2014, 07:10 PM
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Had a lunch date on Wednesday that went well enough that I invited her to watch football with me on Saturday (her favorite team.. she would have been watching anyway). She asked if I'd do it at her house, so must be mutual. I'm not super excited though, and it makes me wonder if it's worth the added time management issues.

On a completely unrelated note, I discovered the Sex Nerd Sandra podcast. Soooo good. I can't get enough of them. Her conversational style is so good. It's funny. It's topical. It's interesting. Love it.
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Old 10-06-2014, 04:26 PM
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Oh.. So that's how a good date is supposed to go.

Met a lady off OKC last night. Chemistry. Laughter. Attraction. We didn't want the date to end. I like this.

I'm going to need a new nickname.
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Old 10-07-2014, 02:10 AM
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I can be so nice to step off the relationship treadmill and just experience the moment with a new person. Glad you had fun
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Old 10-07-2014, 09:07 AM
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I can be so nice to step off the relationship treadmill and just experience the moment with a new person. Glad you had fun
Thank you.

We are supposed to go out tonight, but as you notice the posting time (work) and my allergies have gone completely berserk, I don't know if that's going to happen.

I'm freaking out a bit though. One of the worst experiences I've had in a relationship was when I took advantage of a rebound girl. I hurt her badly and I've never really forgiven myself. I'm worried that's the case here. What I want is more time with Kay and Susan. I don't think I really want another relationship.

I did have a good time though. I'm just going to have to share my feelings and slow it down.
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Old 10-13-2014, 05:23 PM
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I have ironically nicknamed her Farmgirl. We did have to wait until last night, but we went out again. It was ok. I like her as a friend, but I don't see anything coming of it other than sex. I'm not sure if I'm ok with that or not.

I feel like I want it to organically go away. We had an interesting conversation about how you always have to evaluate whether something is worth the time and energy. I think she's worth some time and energy, but the payoff isn't worth sacrificing too much time and energy I need elsewhere.

On the plus side, I'm not having to worry about NRE affecting any current relationships.

Susan is going through a bout of depression again. I'm supporting her as best I can.

Kay is being beaten down by physics and calculus.

Work is kicking my butt.

Overall though, I'm in a good place.
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Old 11-24-2014, 11:27 PM
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I had so much fun last week. Susan flew into Houston and we road tripped to New Orleans. We got an absolutely wonderful combination of talking, events, and sexy time. On the car trip we got to combine two of our favorite activities. I love podcasts, she likes real crime stories. We listened to Sarah Koenig's Serial.

We really enjoyed New Orleans.

On the Saturday back, Kay, Susan, and I had dinner together. It was really nice. Susan was nervous. Kay was very relaxed and even a bit energetic.
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Old 07-17-2015, 03:20 PM
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Hello, everyone.

I know it's been a long time, but I thought I would check in.

Everything is going pretty well. I've made several more trips out to LA. We have a vacation scheduled in early October. I'll be visiting either in late August or joining her for a wedding in September. However, the invitation didn't have a +1 so she's not sure if she will even go since it's cross country.

Kay is doing well. She's finished half of her degree.

Stakes and I still talk occasionally, but work is really interfering. We have both been very busy.

Farmgirl and I decided to be friends. I think we are still working things out and trying to find what we want to do, but we have dinner every so often.

I'm not sure I really identify as poly so much as have the capacity for it. I stopped looking for anything more. I think Susan is a very special exception in my life, and I would never give her up voluntarily. But, since it was so many years before I found her, I am very skeptical that is something I need so much as it's just her that I need.

Anyway, I just wanted to say this has been a very good experience for all of us. Everyone is happy with the relationships and we have great communication. While there has been drama, it's always short lived and we come out better on the other side.
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Old 07-17-2015, 03:29 PM
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HI Dave,
It is good to hear that things are running smoothly for you. It sounds like you have settled into a comfortable and fun relationship with Susan and things with Kay are still going strong.
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