polymusing
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If I ask my husband and lover to join me here, what has been people's experience with that? Has it been a good thing? So-so? Not good?
I just joined this week and it was suggested that I have my husband come and read here. I am contemplating it, but I have some concerns besides the one I mentioned before. There are a lot of "problems" being mentioned and I know that's the nature of the forum beast.
It's funny, as soon as I started typing my concern, I could hear the responses already. My first one was going to be-- what about being able to speak freely and openly? That's my goal. I know I have a lot of work to do along these lines with my husband, but he comes from a long line of "no need to talk about it" people. Maybe having him come and read (and maybe just maybe post himself) would help that. But I'm afraid I would edit/censor what I said if I knew for sure he was reading. (That's just me and I don't like that, but it's what I do.)
My lover (that's how I've started thinking of him, even though it's just emotional right now) has expressed interest in joining me here. He has his own questions. I would like that, but I almost feel like I should invite both of them at the same time. Is that necessary? Is that just me wanting to control things? Sometimes I think too much.
I just joined this week and it was suggested that I have my husband come and read here. I am contemplating it, but I have some concerns besides the one I mentioned before. There are a lot of "problems" being mentioned and I know that's the nature of the forum beast.
It's funny, as soon as I started typing my concern, I could hear the responses already. My first one was going to be-- what about being able to speak freely and openly? That's my goal. I know I have a lot of work to do along these lines with my husband, but he comes from a long line of "no need to talk about it" people. Maybe having him come and read (and maybe just maybe post himself) would help that. But I'm afraid I would edit/censor what I said if I knew for sure he was reading. (That's just me and I don't like that, but it's what I do.)
My lover (that's how I've started thinking of him, even though it's just emotional right now) has expressed interest in joining me here. He has his own questions. I would like that, but I almost feel like I should invite both of them at the same time. Is that necessary? Is that just me wanting to control things? Sometimes I think too much.